I don’t know if you have noticed such a phenomenon. Some couples can quickly warm up after communicating; while some couples have fierce quarrels after communicating. The original problem is not resolved and other problems arise. This is what we are going to discuss today about effective communication. So what is effective communication in love? Let’s take a look with the editor.
Effective communication includes the following elements: appropriate time, stable emotions, reasonable communication methods, willingness to solve problems together, correct Give feedback.
So what is effective communication in love?
1. Unless we want to express and communicate, the other party must accept and respond.
Communication requires the right time and the right mentality. People will be willing to communicate if they are relaxed, affirmed, aware that the problem needs to be solved, and feel that the other party is thinking about themselves. If more than three of the above conditions are met, people will be willing to communicate.
2. Clarify the purpose of communication and communicate in an emotionally stable manner.
It is not to prove that you are right, nor to accuse the other party of being wrong, but to express your own needs, understand the needs of the other party, coordinate the needs of both parties, and finally reach an agreement.
3. The prerequisite for anyone to be willing to communicate is that their efforts are recognized and their difficulties are understood. If you first face If the other party is to blame and criticize, then the other party will have strong feelings of confrontation, and the purpose of communication will not be achieved.
So communication is not an accusation or a complaint, but a statement + discussion.
4. Communication formula: affirm and understand the other party + state the facts + express self-feelings + propose solutions to the problem + reach an agreement + not settle old scores later and provide positive feedback.
Sometimes, problems cannot be solved by communicating. In addition to communication, our emotions, behavioral patterns, and each other's feelings can all promote the development of relationships and nourish each other. Make yourself and the other person willing to make the relationship better. Have you learned it?
