In the relationship between men and women, chatting is a very regular art. As long as boys grasp the rhythm of chatting, chatting with girls will become very simple. I believe that most boys are very eager to be able to communicate effectively with the girl they like, and then make the other party fall in love with them. Let me share with you how to arouse girls’ interest in chatting? Make her fall in love with you through chatting.
In the art of love, we cannot overemphasize the importance of chatting. To catch up with a girl, it is simply about what to talk about, how to talk about it, and who to talk to. So if you know how to chat, you are at least half a love expert: because being able to chat with girls is the first step, and then there is the possibility of further development. And if you don’t know how to chat, then you may stop there.
There are several dimensions in chatting with girls, namely: the tone of the chat, the status of the chat, the content of the chat, and the purpose of the chat. Why make such a distinction? Because no matter which of these four points you fail to do well in the process of chatting with girls, the result will only be failure.
1. The tone of chatting:
Reducing infantilization
This society has There is a consensus among people with high IQ and high education that they are called nerds who cannot pick up girls. This kind of ridicule is actually very unfair. The fact behind it is that their chatting is not only out of the juvenile style, but also a little too professional, and girls instinctively reject this kind of chatting method.
So, how do you describe it so that it feels childish?
[Language convention library for young children]: Mumoda/little friends/baby/eating/kissing/having sex if you don’t agree/eating rubbish/old driver, etc.
It will make sense if you give an example like this.
To put it more vividly: It’s not wrong to treat the other person as a little girl who is inexperienced in the world~
2. Chat status:
Yuppie, funny, charming, and inductive
Status is the easiest thing to outline, but the most difficult to implement because it is not vivid and girls The judgment of your chat status is not made during the communication process with you, but is determined at the first sight. The first impression determines the girl's personality towards you, so when it comes to chasing girls, making mistakes in the early stages will It is fatal, and in the later stages or after the relationship is confirmed, the other party may never leave you even if you pick your toes and curse.
3. Chat content:
Four don’ts + one key point + one skill
The so-called four don’ts are:
1 , Don’t talk about information, talk about feelings, plots, and stories
2. Don’t talk about reality, talk about artistic conception, experience, and Ma Xingkong
3. Don’t argue, but share plan, wantStanding in the same boat
4. Don’t talk about negative topics that cause discomfort to the other party
One key point: guide girls to express more and share more topics during the chat, so that they can Help you know more about her;
A skill: intersperse the description of the subsequent desired transfer location in the chat to pave the way for the next step.
Things to note
1. During the chat, do not verbally deny or suppress girls, especially Suppression in the form of personal attacks (for example, you say a fat girl is fat, and you say a dark girl is dark)
2. Refuse awkward chats: any unnecessary meaningless speech The content is like farts, making the atmosphere awkward and uncomfortable. It is better to end the chat in time than to make it awkward.
3. Don’t praise girls too much. Girls will think you are hypocritical.
4. At the end of the chat, give the topic an open ending and add more details.
5. Increase the frequency of chatting: 3 times a week is not too much for those who have a window!
6. Maintain eye contact. More eye contact will help girls develop feelings for you.
4. The purpose of chatting:
To strengthen the atmosphere of love and give the other person the illusion of being happy with you.
A very straightforward explanation is to strengthen the feeling. I feel that this matter is really important, because if I feel it is in place, things will fall into place naturally. This is why theme restaurants and couple cinemas are so popular now.
Finally, the above is the theory about how to arouse girls’ interest in chatting. After reading this, the most important thing for boys is to integrate knowledge and action. No matter how perfect and effective knowledge is, it will be in vain if you just chat. Talking is more like fitness or swimming. If you don’t practice, these skills have nothing to do with you~
