After chatting for a few words, the other person is not interested in anything. This series of problems are basically caused by awkward chatting. When it comes to awkward conversations, no straight man is innocent. So as a straight man, how should you avoid awkward conversations when chatting with girls?
Below, I will give you an analysis based on some chat cases! Help you solve the problem when chatting with girls from the source. Awkward question.
1. The topic does not attract her interest
Male: Hello
Female: Hi~
Male: What are you doing
Female: Watching a movie
Male: What movie, hahaha
Female: Westworld
Male: Isn’t Westworld an American TV series???
Female: Oh
Male: Which episode did you see
< p> Female: I just watched it, the first episodeMale: How did it feel?
Female: It’s quite exciting
Female: I hope that the female lead will be in the future Join forces with Meifu
Male: Hahaha, I have seen the third episode
Male: Everyone is so slow to follow
Female: Otherwise, how fast can it be? ?
In this awkward conversation, the girl is obviously talking about movies, but the boy corrects her nouns. Then the girl talks about the plot, but the boy talks to her about the download speed. We are not in the same channel at all, how can we resonate? How can we not chat awkwardly?
So how to avoid this situation?
When girls talk about the plot, what we should do is just Tell her your opinions about the male and female protagonists, your speculations about the later plot, and interact with her by the way. For example, which character in Westworld is your favorite?
Isn’t this just a story? Is it a good chat interaction that avoids awkward conversations?
2. She is very busy. She has gone to take a shower and her phone is out of battery.
Male: Hello
Female: Hi
Male: What are you doing
Female: Ready to get off work
Ten minutes later...
Man: That’s great
Man: ???
Man: What are you doing?!
Male: Where is the person?
Male:???
Sometimes, when we send a message, the girl happens to have something she must do. For example:
1. Before getting off work, the boss asked her to revise a business copy immediately, and the client pressed for it;
2. She may be chatting with multiple people at the same time, one of whom is her mother. , one is a best friend,When the girl was about to reply to your message, her best friend also sent her a voice message, so she slowed down her reply.
In this case, if you send her a series of messages such as "Are you there, what are you doing, what are you busy with, can you please reply to me, why don't you reply to me" and other messages, this will only make her Feel disgusted.
And we have been emphasizing not to reveal your neediness when you are not very familiar with girls!
Such an anxious inquiry is obviously telling her that I am waiting for you to reply to my WeChat message, even if I have to work overtime, even if I have not eaten. The sense of need has been exposed and couldn’t be more obvious.
It’s okay to like someone, and it’s okay to follow someone, but sometimes, do we forget to think about whether he or she needs your attention before taking action?
Once There is a boy who likes a girl very much, and the girl also has a crush on him.
When the two of them have nothing to do, they will make an appointment to have milk tea and walk on the street. He even went to a hotel alone to review advanced mathematics. But the last two people are still not together.
On the day when the boy went to confess his love, the girl said to him, I know you like me, but I really can’t accept the way you like me.
In fact, the boy didn’t do anything. It was just that sometimes when the girl didn’t reply to his WeChat messages, he would start voice bombing on WeChat and phone calls.
I can only say that this method may be more suitable for falling in love with Martians.
On the contrary, a better behavior is to know that if the girl does not reply to WeChat, she is probably busy with something, so she chooses not to disturb her, and silently leaves the sentence "Reply me when you have time", or sends a cute one Emoticons, and then go do your own thing.
Wait until she replies to the message to make it clear.
3. No resonance and emotional mobilization
Sometimes, we know each other’s preferences and what topics to talk about, but we still can’t avoid awkward conversations.
Just like this boy, he wanted to strike up a conversation with a girl who had just learned piano for a short time, trying to show off his versatility.
Male: Are you learning piano?
Female: Yeah
Male: It seems we are the same people
Female:?
Male: Hahaha, I am also learning, we can communicate more in the future
Female: Okay
Male: I listened to the song in your circle of friends , I feel like you play the piano very well!
Female: No
Male: I’m not lying to you, you really play the piano very nicely.
Female: Thank you
Male: How long have you been studying?
Female: Just starting
Male: You just started studying? Wow? You are really amazing and talented.
Female: Really, thank you...
Male: There are often piano performances at the Zhongshan Concert Hall. We can go there together another day
Then there was no reply.
Generally speaking, in this situation, there is a high probability that the girl is not interested in you. At this time, it is more about improving your own value rather than being a dog licker!
How to do it! I will simply provide a few tips:
1. Post some photos of personal hobbies
For example , exercise, or reading.
This kind of positive circle of friends can easily inspire girls’ associations. When she sees your colorful daily life, her inner impressions will immediately be added to yours.
2. Share photos of you working hard and doing things in your circle of friends
This will subconsciously make girls think that you are a very responsible person. Boys who focus on work generally Give people a sense of trust.
Although high-value friend circles can increase impression points, you should not post too frequently, otherwise girls will think you are very showy.
The frequency of posting to Moments is best 2-3 times a week, mainly pictures, no need for too much text, let the girls make their own associations.
In a word, what kind of person you are, then what kind of friend circle will be like.
If you forward all kinds of chicken soup, dirty jokes, advertisements, etc. every day, and the girl blocks you over time, how can she still be willing to chat with you?
Of course, Your circle of friends must be authentic. You may not need good photography skills, but you can copy and paste very literary copywriting.
Sincerity and simplicity are good~
I have always felt that social interaction between people should be so simple and unpretentious!
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