Having no topic to chat with girls is a problem that troubles many boys. This is also the question I am asked the most. When many people communicate with girls, they often get stuck not knowing how to speak or what to talk to each other. So today we will discuss why you and girls have no topics to talk about? Hope it helps.
Why there are no topics when chatting with girls
It is generally because you have a single way of thinking, are introverted, are not good at expressing, and are not confident enough. This is explained in detail below.
First, a single way of thinking
So what are the consequences of a single way of thinking? First of all, a single way of thinking means that you are only considering the problem unilaterally and will not think about the problem from all aspects and from different angles, because your consideration of the problem is too limited and your thinking is not divergent enough.
Let me give you an analogy, take the matter of eating as an example. People with a single way of thinking look at this matter. , they will say that I am eating. When a person with divergent thinking looks at this problem, he will consider the problem from multiple angles. He will think about which food tastes better, which restaurant has a better attitude, which restaurant has a better decoration atmosphere, and which restaurant has a better decoration and atmosphere. If there are more beauties in his house and which one has better quality and cheaper food, he will have a lot of interesting things to share with the girls, and the girls will also feel that they have a steady stream of things to say and different topics to share with him.
Chatting is a process of sharing information. We share the interesting things we see with each other. Over time, girls will feel that men with divergent thinking have interesting souls, so it is easy for two people to get along. A spark of love. So this is why people with a single way of thinking always have nothing to say to girls, while boys with divergent thinking always have something to say to girls. The two of them are always talking and laughing, which makes people happy to watch.
Second, they are introverted and not good at expressing emotions
Introverts are just a mess of people. If they have any concerns, they will just hide behind them silently and watch them secretly. Girls chat with other people of the opposite sex, but they don’t dare to take the first step, but they don’t dare to say a word to the girl they like, “Can we make friends?”, so we can only watch fate slip away from us quietly. , I didn’t dare to step forward and actively fight for it, and I didn’t know how to fight for it, so I was always in endless loneliness and pain.
Introverts who think about One Direction during the day and worry about the future at night appear to be very Buddhist in the eyes of those around them. Boys, but no one will understand, but no one will understand this introverted boy. They really want to talk about the pain and helplessness in his heart, want to share it with others, want to tell the world that I like this girl, but what happens every time the words come to their lips?Nothing could be said.
Is he wrong? I want to say that he was wrong. He was wrong in not caring too much about the feelings of the people around him. He was wrong in thinking that this girl could have a better boy. Just like Zhang Wansen only dared to hide behind and guard silently, but did not dare to step forward and tell this girl that I like you. But have you ever thought that no one in this world will like this girl more than you, and no one can give this girl the happiness she wants better than you.
Third, not confident enough
Not confident enough, so I worry about gains and losses, so I get entangled, so I press the undo button countless times, and when the time passes, I have no choice but to When you don’t reply to messages, the best reply time has already passed. You are always struggling with what I am saying, what should I do if girls are not interested, if girls don’t want to hear it, if girls don’t like to hear it? Should I say this, should I say it, and then end up letting it go after countless struggles. This is a sign of lack of confidence. Are girls interested in me? Do girls not want to listen to me?
