When I was chatting with a girl I liked, in the middle of the conversation, the other party suddenly said that he was going to take a shower, and then left forever. No matter how many messages he sent, there was no reply. What should I do in this situation?
First of all, let’s understand why we feel so long and anxious when waiting for a girl to reply to our message.
In fact, this kind of behavior is called the waiting effect in psychology, which means that people will have a huge anxiety while waiting. This anxiety will feel like the time is very long, and at the same time, waiting will also make people feel anxious. When people feel entangled and confused, they can't help but want to take action immediately and want to know the answer as soon as possible. Some people will even ask the question, send messages or urge the other party to reply.
If a girl says she has gone to take a shower and does not reply to you, it will easily put you into a waiting effect and make you unable to control yourself. At this time, if you continue to ask questions or send crazy messages, it will only make her feel You are immature, emotionally unstable, or feel insecure, which will reduce your favorability.
A girl says she has gone to take a shower and will not come back. What should I do?
In response to this situation, I would like to give you three tips:
1. Stop chasing messages
If a girl says she has gone to take a shower, If you continue to add messages without replying to you, it is a very low-value behavior because your behavior exposes a variety of negative emotions. For example, you give her the impression that you have nothing to do and are eagerly waiting for her. Reply, or fear that she will not reply, etc. These negative emotions will cause a certain amount of psychological pressure on girls and will reduce your attraction to girls.
2. Learn to cut off chats
Many boys make such a mistake when chatting with girls , that is, always put yourself in a state of waiting for the other party's reply and will not take the initiative to end the chat, because for them, girls' attention and recognition can make them gain confidence and satisfaction. If you want to change this situation, you need to learn to develop the habit of ending the chat before the girl. For example, you have to terminate the topic cleverly, so that the next time you want to chat with her, the relationship between you will be better. There’s also a good topic to start with.
3. Shift of focus
If a girl says she went to take a shower and doesn’t reply to your message, her attitude is already very serious. Obviously, just do what you should do. This is what a smart man does. You need to know that the other person also has their own life and space. You need to learn to shift your focus and do some more important things. If you really have something to say, you can leave a message with the other person., and then just get busy. You need to make the girl realize that no matter whether he replies or not, you have your own things to do. Therefore, it is very important to analyze the psychology of the other party when chatting. Remember not to stalk, as this will make girls extremely disgusted.
