If you want to pursue a girl, you must first find a way to chat with her and establish a connection. Other things like dating, promoting relationship, and physical contact are all things for later. You must first be able to chat with a girl and make her feel like she has something to say when she is with you instead of being silent. This is the most important thing. Let’s analyze for everyone if you want to pursue a girl, how do you start chatting with her and get in touch with her?
1. You have to learn to understand girls’ thinking
It is said that women have deep minds. In fact, it is not that girls’ minds are difficult to understand, but that boys and girls think differently. If you If you can learn to look at things from a girl's perspective, you will be able to understand why girls think that way. This can also avoid misunderstandings or disagreements when you are chatting with girls. This is a very important point.
So before boys chat with girls, you must have a clear understanding:
Because You and girls think very differently, so when you chat with girls, don’t impose your thoughts on girls, but learn to understand girls’ thinking patterns, so that girls will feel that you understand her and that you are hers. Soulmate, then your chat process will be much more harmonious. You can constantly switch your thoughts while chatting.
2. You should always have something to talk about
When you first start chatting with girls, many brothers are afraid that they will say the wrong thing because they don’t know the girls well, and they don’t know what to say. No matter what the topic is, it is easy to end up chatting without anything to say, which is a taboo. How can a girl choose a person who can't stop chatting with her? Wouldn't the future life be boring? So you should always have something to talk about.
Here are some common topics for chatting with girls. You can use them as a reference:
1. Basic information exchange (you can first talk about your own basic situation, Then ask the girl about her career, hobbies, specialties, etc. This is also a prerequisite for everyone to understand each other)
2. Express your feelings towards the other party (since you want to pursue girls, you must express your Some good impressions of girls, what you admire about her, in short, be convincing)
3. Interesting third party Topics (after you have a simple understanding with a girl, it is best to bring up some interesting topics, so that the girl will feel relaxed and happy getting along with you. This is a little trick)
4. Random topics (sometimes you really don’t prepare so many topics in advance, so random topics are also very important, such as discussing what you like to eat, what your specialty dishes are, and the taste of hometown dishes when you go on a date to eat)
5. Ambiguous Flirting (After you have a close enough relationship with a girl, you can appropriately say some ambiguous flirting words.This is the first step in the development of your relationship during the Spring Festival)
These 5 topics cover almost all the topics we usually chat with girls, but you need to choose the appropriate topic based on your relationship with the girl. If Saying ambiguous words when you have just met may make a girl think you are frivolous and greasy, and she will stay away from you, so you must say the right words in the right relationship.
