Many boys chat with girls, let alone asking girls to take the initiative to find them. Many times the messages they send are like silence and no reply is received. So why does a girl never take the initiative to chat with me, and how can I get her to take the initiative?
1. Praise should be taken attentively
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You can talk in a roundabout way, but finding something to talk to when you have nothing to say is the most painful thing. If you insist on chatting and compliment her forcefully, you will develop social phobia even if you don't have social phobia.
As a girl, in fact, when faced with your endless inquiries and 360-degree compliments, I can respond to you out of politeness at first, but after a long time, I can only laugh in my heart.
Everyone wants to be praised, because it means being affirmed, but you must also praise at a high level.
Of course, it’s not the kind of compliment that comes out of nowhere. She can tell whether it’s flattery or sincere praise.
There once was a girl who was very beautiful and slender. She was the goddess of many boys’ hearts. Many boys who wanted to pursue her praised her for her beauty and tall figure. However, those boys who tried their best to praise her and win her favor did not become her boyfriend in the end.
On the contrary, it was an ordinary boy who saw that her hands were a bit rough and later learned that she was the one who took care of her parents when they were sick. He praised her for her filial piety and beautiful soul, which finally warmed her heart. , happy to embrace the beauty back home.
Appreciate the different shining points in her. Being polite is better than being coquettish, and her temperament is better than her face. Try to find the real bright spots in this girl from different aspects, praise her, and let her I feel like you are the one who understands her.
2. Look for relevance
Studies have found that people are interested in people or things that are relevant to them. Never lose interest.
For example, if a person wants to buy a house, he will actively pay attention to real estate information. If a real estate agent comes to chat with him, he may chat for three hours, but if a car salesman comes to him to sell a car, he may only talk to him. He will say: Sorry, I don't have time.
If you want a girl to not dislike you and have endless conversations with you, you must learn to find topics that are relevant to her as an entry point.
She will also treat you as a close friend, thus providing a springboard for you to become a boyfriend.
For example, if the girl you like likes watching movies, then you can talk about movies with her. When you see her post on her Moments about what movie she watched today or a line from a certain movie, you can add information about the content she likes, the director's style, the director's other works, and the type of movie material. What other similar ones are there to open up the topic with her?
Let’s chat while we’re at itThe weather is so hot, wouldn’t it be perfect to invite her to watch a movie together next time?
3. Don’t do it too frequently Chat
When a boy meets the girl he likes, he always wants to know more about her and can’t help but want to talk to her. I wish I could keep chatting with her 24 hours a day and get all her hobbies and identity information...
When we first get acquainted with anyone, the process of getting familiar with and adapting to each other is gradual. For most girls who are a little reserved, this is perfectly normal.
But if you chat with her too frequently, it will give her the illusion that you are too utilitarian and have evil intentions, which will be counterproductive. She will compare you with those licking boys, and she will think that you are a low-scoring boy who wants to take advantage of you as soon as you get started.
Therefore, it is best to control the frequency of proactive messages to 2-3 times a week. Give her some opportunities to take the initiative on her own.
