Recently, while chatting with friends, the topic of love came up, and it seems everyone has their share of "tearful tales." Love, in essence, is neither too difficult nor too simple. Today, I'd like to discuss some "unspoken rules" in relationships, particularly the pitfalls women often fall into and how men can avoid detours.
First, let's talk about some common mistakes women make in relationships. Some women tend to frequently mention "breaking up" over trivial matters, such as when their boyfriend doesn't answer calls or messages, or when something doesn't go their way. They don't actually want to break up but seek more attention and comfort through this behavior. However, honestly, this approach can be quite off-putting. As netizen "Er Lei" mentioned, after a rejection, the relationship becomes lukewarm. Similarly, frequently threatening to break up can exhaust a man, potentially leading him to seriously consider ending the relationship.
Another issue is dredging up the past. During arguments, women often bring up past grievances, like "You always do this" or "You never consider my feelings." While understandable, as women often suppress their grievances until they burst out, men hearing these complaints may feel entirely negated, leading to emotional outbursts. As illustrated in the story of Zhang Yang and Mi Xinxin, bringing up past issues can make the relationship exhausting and even lead to a breakup.
Now, let"s discuss mistakes men often make when pursuing women. Many men rush to confess their feelings upon liking a woman, often resulting in rejection. Confessing too soon isn't advisable. As netizen "Lei Te Shuo" pointed out, after a failed confession, the difficulty of pursuing the woman increases tenfold. Instead of rushing to confess, it's better to first befriend the woman and gradually develop feelings. Relationships need to progress step by step, from acquaintances to friends, then to confidants, and finally to an intimate stage. Skipping these steps and confessing directly has a very low success rate.
Additionally, men should not overly fawn over women when pursuing them. Some men believe that being good to a woman will win her over, but before she becomes your girlfriend, excessive flattery can make her feel pressured. As netizen "Hu Er Jin Xia YZY" said, everyone knows the theory, but the best skill is not making mistakes. Instead of rushing to please, it's better to create a comfortable environment for the relationship to develop naturally.
Finally, I want to emphasize that love is a two-person endeavor that requires mutual effort. Both women and men need to learn to empathize, understanding each other"s needs and feelings. Women should not always use the threat of breaking up, and men should not rush to confess or fawn. Love requires time and patience to cultivate, and only when both parties are willing to give and be tolerant can the relationship go further.
I hope today"s sharing provides some insights, and I wish everyone can find their own happiness. If you have any experiences or confusions about love, feel free to share in the comments, and let's chat together!
