Recently, I've come across numerous videos about finding a partner, and honestly, they've left me both amused and exasperated. Particularly those "from fellow townsman to wife" guides remind me of the experiences of many friends around me. Today, I'd like to discuss this topic.
First of all, I must say that finding a partner is something that really shouldn't be rushed. I have a friend who is the type that "when fellow townsmen meet, tears well up in their eyes." And the result? Not only did he lose both his money and his heart, but he almost got himself into serious trouble. He told me that at the time, he thought his fellow townsman was reliable, after all, they knew each other's background. But it turned out that the other person was just looking for a "long-term meal ticket." This incident made me deeply realize that finding a partner shouldn't be based solely on appearances, and one shouldn't blindly invest because of a momentary "fellow townsman sentiment."
Then there are those videos that "demonstrate how to find a girlfriend," some of which are quite hilarious. For example, in one video, a guy directly asks a girl, "Can you be my wife?" The girl, without hesitation, replies, "No..." This kind of straightforward confession, while commendable for its courage, has a success rate that, well, we all understand. In fact, the most important thing in finding a partner is sincerity and patience, not immediately asking "can you be my wife."
I've also noticed that some videos have exceptionally high view counts, like the one from "Sister Yu Talks About Emotions," which has garnered up to 78,000 views. What does this indicate? It shows that people are really paying a lot of attention to emotional issues. But the question is, can these videos really help us find a reliable partner? I think not necessarily. Finding a partner is something that requires personal experience and feeling, not blindly relying on others' "guides."
Finally, what I want to say is that there are no shortcuts in finding a partner. Those so-called "pitfall avoidance guides" and "singlehood escape strategies" can only serve as references and should not be fully trusted. What's truly reliable is yourself. You need to be clear about what you want and what suits you, and then gradually get to know and understand others. Don't rush from "fellow townsman to wife"; start as friends, then talk about feelings. This way, you're more likely to find someone who truly suits you.
In conclusion, finding a partner is something that can't be rushed, nor should it be. I hope everyone can find the right person, rather than being led astray by so-called "guides."