Recently, I had a chat with a few friends about the topic of dating. One friend was particularly troubled, saying he had been pursuing a woman for several months, and she always claimed to be a slow-to-warm-up type, telling him not to rush. As a result, the more he pursued, the more confused he became, not knowing what to do. This reminded me of some articles I had read before, and today I want to discuss this topic with you.
In reality, when a woman says she is a slow-to-warm-up type, it often doesn't mean she is genuinely slow to warm up. Like the situation my friend encountered, the woman enjoys the man's kindness while delaying giving a clear response. To put it bluntly, this is just stringing him along. I've seen too many men fall into this predicament, knowing full well that the other person is stringing them along, yet still unable to let go.
A netizen in the comment section put it well: "Don't be a doormat, don't actively pursue women, and if it's not suitable, I'd rather never get married." Although this statement is a bit extreme, it indeed voices the sentiments of many men. We often fall into the misconception that being good to a woman will win her over. But the reality is, being good to a woman is something even a stranger can do.
So, what should you do in such situations? I've summarized a few practical suggestions:
First, learn to observe the woman's genuine reactions. For example, during a date, you might try holding her hand. If she shows obvious resistance, it means she really has no feelings for you. At this point, cutting your losses is the wise choice.
Second, don't pour all your energy into pursuing a woman. A comment in the section hit the nail on the head: "Earn money well, tricks are not as honest as money, having money always gives you the initiative!" Improving yourself is always the most important. When you become excellent enough, you will naturally attract the right person.
Moreover, learn to set boundaries. Don"t just keep giving; learn to express your needs at the appropriate time. If the other person remains ambiguous, then decisively let go. Remember, someone who truly likes you won't keep you guessing.
Lastly, I want to say that dating is about mutual affection. Rather than wasting time in an uncertain relationship, focus your energy on improving yourself. When you become excellent enough, you will naturally meet the right person.
Another netizen commented: "No more talk, I'm a straight guy, I need a girlfriend." Actually, rather than rushing to find a girlfriend, it's better to make yourself better first. After all, love isn't chased; it's attracted.
I hope today's sharing can give you some inspiration. Remember, staying clear-headed is crucial in love. Don't lose yourself because of a momentary infatuation. Wishing everyone can find their own happiness!
