Recently, I had a chat with a few single friends and noticed that everyone is quite anxious about finding a partner. Honestly, I was once part of the "single dog" army, and I deeply understand the frustration of wanting to find love but not knowing where to start. Today, let's talk about this topic and share some of my personal insights and practical tips I've learned from elsewhere.
First, we need to acknowledge a fact: finding a partner is essentially a "value exchange." It might sound a bit cold, but that's the reality. As mentioned in the original article, imagine yourself as a big cabbage. How can you make the beauties rush to buy you? If you are a cabbage carved from jade, naturally, you would be sold out in no time. Therefore, enhancing your value is key.
But don"t lose heart; value isn't just about money and status. A sense of humor, emotional intelligence, hobbies, and even your attitude towards life are all part of your "value." As someone in the comments section said, "A man who isn't handsome may not be good-looking, but he has other assets that handsome men don't have, such as humor, wit, and strength." So, don't always focus on your shortcomings; look more at your strengths.
Next, let"s talk about specific operational techniques. The original article mentions an interesting point: **establish the relationship before confessing your feelings**. This is completely opposite to what I used to think. I always believed that if you like someone, you should confess immediately, fearing you might miss the opportunity. But the reality is, confessing is often the "charge of the horn," not the "song of victory." Instead of rushing to confess, it's better to first get closer through dates and chats, and only confess when the other person has developed a liking for you.
Another point I find particularly important: **be cool during the pursuit, but warm during the relationship**. Many guys in the pursuit phase can"t wait to check in with good morning and good night messages every day, but once they win the girl over, they become cold. This makes the girl feel like you've changed, and she might even doubt your sincerity. Therefore, it's better to be a bit cool during the pursuit phase to lower expectations, and then become warm once the relationship is established. This way, the other person will find you increasingly charming.
Speaking of charm, we must mention **building your social circle**. The original article suggests that instead of buying things for girls, spend money on yourself to enhance your external image. For example, get a stylish haircut, buy some handsome clothes, and then post some good-looking photos on your social media. When you go out, take some photos with a few attractive girls and post them on your social media. This tactic might seem a bit "scheming," but it's indeed effective. Girls are attracted to charming men, and charm is often displayed through such showcases.
Finally, I want to say that there are no shortcuts to finding a partner, but it"s not that difficult either. The key is to find a method that suits you and stick to it. As the original article says, "Even a poor man can find a stunning beauty to be his wife!" As long as you are willing to work hard and make changes, finding a partner is just a matter of time.
Alright, that"s all for today's sharing. If you have any insights on finding a partner, feel free to leave a comment below, and let's exchange ideas. Wishing everyone the best in finding their ideal partner soon!
