As someone who has been through it, I want to talk about pursuing girls in college today. Honestly, seeing comments like "getting into a relationship is a skill" made me laugh. Indeed, finding a partner can be both challenging and simple, depending on the mindset you approach it with.
I remember when I first started college, I was also anxious about chasing girls. Over time, I realized that college is actually the best time for dating. Why do I say that? First, everyone's life rhythm is similar; we all eat in the cafeteria, and watching a movie doesn't cost much. Unlike after work, where dating costs skyrocket. Second, there are plenty of opportunities on campus—club activities, classroom groups, library study sessions—everywhere is a chance to meet new friends.
When it comes to how to actually pursue a girl, I think the most important thing is to find your own position. As some netizens say, introverted girls are actually easier to chase. This is true because they are often more willing to listen and cherish those who take the initiative to approach them. However, I suggest not setting limits for yourself from the start, thinking you must chase a certain type of girl. What"s important is to find someone who shares your interests, so you can have common topics and feel comfortable together.
Speaking of common topics, I particularly agree with the article"s point about "having your own career goals." I remember a guy in our class who wrote articles in the dorm every day, and everyone thought he was not focusing on his studies. He persisted for six years and is now a well-known self-media figure. Guys with goals and persistence are really attractive. So, instead of always thinking about how to chase girls, it's better to focus on doing your own thing well. When you have your own pursuits, you will naturally attract people who appreciate you.
Of course, if you want to take action now, I have some small suggestions. For example, you can participate in more club activities or sign up for some interest classes. A friend of mine met his current girlfriend at a swimming club. Also, many short video platforms now have local features where you can follow girls who share their lives, starting from common topics to gradually build a connection.
Finally, I want to say that finding a partner really can"t be rushed. Instead of being anxious, it's better to focus on improving yourself. As someone in the comments said, "There's a method to finding a partner." Yes, methods are important, but more importantly, maintaining a normal heart. When you are excellent enough, love will naturally come knocking.
Remember, college time is precious; enjoy the sweetness of love, but also cherish the opportunity for self-growth. After all, the best love is when both people can become better in the relationship.
