Recently, while chatting with a few single friends, I discovered a common confusion: why do girls always seem to be somewhat distant even after expressing interest? This reminded me of an interesting case I came across before, and today I’d like to share it with you.
A guy met a girl through a blind date, and they lived in different cities. They chatted every day, and the guy even traveled to her city to confess his feelings. However, the girl responded with a message that roughly said, "If you were chatting with someone else, would you develop the same feelings? You haven’t seen my flaws yet, would you regret it?" The guy was completely baffled and asked me what this really meant.
Honestly, when I saw this case, I could really empathize with the guy’s feelings. It reminded me of my friend Ajie, who has good qualities but tends to stay at home. He finally mustered the courage to go on a blind date, but when asked, "How many girlfriends have you had before?" he got nervous. He said, "I don’t even dare to strike up a conversation with a pretty girl on the bus, let alone confess my feelings."
In reality, when girls say these things, they are often testing you. As the commenter "Wudaokou Foodie" said, "Of course, you wouldn’t develop the same feelings with someone else, but you might develop different feelings." This statement is particularly interesting, as it reveals the inner concerns of the girl.
I’ve summarized a few points of experience that I hope will be helpful:
First, don’t rush to confess your feelings. Confessing is like pushing all the pressure onto the girl, which can make the relationship awkward. Instead of confessing, try to invite her out more often. As mentioned in the case, invite her to watch a movie or have a meal, and see how she reacts. If she’s willing to go out alone with you, it shows she has some interest in you.
Second, maintaining confidence is crucial. Girls like guys who are decisive, not those who are overly submissive. I have a friend who always plans where to go on dates in advance, and the girls find him very charming because of it.
Moreover, a sense of humor is a plus. But be careful with the boundaries; don’t make inappropriate jokes. I remember once when I went on a blind date with a friend, he told a joke that made the girl laugh out loud, and they actually ended up together.
Lastly, be your true self. Don’t change yourself just to please a girl. As the case mentioned, what the girl wants is the real you, not a facade.
In conclusion, pursuing a girl is a gradual process. Don’t be too hasty, but don’t be too passive either. Spend more time together, get to know each other, and take it slow. Remember, relationships are a two-way street; they can’t be forced.
Have you ever encountered a similar situation? Feel free to share your story in the comments, and let’s discuss together!
