Recently, I had a chat with a few single friends and noticed that everyone seems quite anxious about getting into a relationship. Especially my male friends, who often feel that pursuing girls is particularly challenging and frequently encounter setbacks. In reality, finding a girlfriend can be both difficult and simple; the key lies in mastering some "hidden rules."
I have a friend, Xiao Wang, who used to fail repeatedly in pursuing girls. Later, he concluded that one should never confess their feelings right at the beginning! As "Er Lei" mentioned in the comments, after a confession is rejected, the relationship tends to become lukewarm. Teacher Lei Te also pointed out that after a failed confession, the difficulty of pursuing a girl increases at least tenfold. This reminds me of another friend, Xiao Li, who liked a girl and rushed to confess his feelings after just two weeks of knowing her, only to be blocked by her immediately. Therefore, matters of the heart truly cannot be rushed.
In fact, pursuing a girl is like simmering a good soup; it requires a slow and steady flame. The process shared by Teacher Lei Te is particularly interesting: initial acquaintance, ordinary friendship, close friendship, intimate stage, and finally, establishing a romantic relationship. This process sounds quite lengthy, but as "Old Peng's Lecture" asks, how long does it specifically take? There is no standard answer; the key is to let things happen naturally.
I particularly agree with what Teacher Lei Te said: girlfriends are "promoted" from friends. As "Suddenly This Summer YZY" mentioned in the comments, everyone understands the theory, but putting it into practice is indeed not easy. I believe the most important thing is to maintain a normal mindset and not reveal your intentions too soon. Like another friend of mine, Xiao Zhang, who always tried too hard to please the girl he was pursuing, ended up scaring her away.
In fact, the most important thing in finding a girlfriend is not technique, but sincerity. As "User 6307044998380" said in the comments, just find someone who likes you back. Although love at first sight is rare, as long as we remain sincere and gradually nurture our feelings, we will eventually meet the right person.
Finally, I want to say that there is no shortcut to pursuing a girl. Instead of constantly thinking about how to confess your feelings, it"s better to focus on improving yourself and becoming an interesting and charming person. This way, not only will it be easier to pursue girls, but life will also become more exciting. What do you think?
