Today, I want to discuss an interesting topic—how high emotional intelligence (EQ) men deal with those "hurtful" phrases from women. Honestly, it's inevitable to encounter moments in a relationship that make one feel uncomfortable, especially when women casually say a few words that can really make a man's heart skip a beat. But did you know? Truly skilled men can not only easily defuse these "hurtful" words but also use the opportunity to win hearts. Today, I'll share some of my observations and thoughts.
First, we have to admit that sometimes what women say can be quite piercing. For example, the classic "You're really nice, but we're not a good match," or "I think we're better off as friends." When these words are spoken, it's natural for a man to feel a bit disheartened and even doubt if he's done something wrong. However, a man with high EQ won't fall into self-doubt. Instead, he'll calmly analyze whether there's something he needs to improve or if the two are genuinely not compatible.
I have a friend who experienced this situation. He had been pursuing a woman for a long time, and then she suddenly said, "I think we're better off as friends." He was indeed quite upset at the time, but he didn't rush to give up. Instead, he calmed down and carefully thought about their interaction patterns. He realized that he might have been too eager for results, neglecting her feelings. So, he adjusted his strategy, focusing more on her feelings and needs rather than just the outcome. And the result? They ended up together and now have a very strong relationship.
In fact, truly skilled men in relationships share a common trait: they know how to "filter." As mentioned in the article, they don't waste time on people who don't like them from the start but instead focus their energy on those who have a favorable impression of them. This "filtering" is not only responsible for themselves but also for the other person. After all, relationships are a two-way street; forcing something that isn't meant to be won't yield sweet results.
I also saw a comment from a netizen: "High EQ men aren't immune to getting hurt; they know how to grow from the hurt." This is so true! Relationships inevitably have their bumps and bruises, but truly skilled men don't give up after a setback. Instead, they learn from it and become better.
So, if you've ever been on the receiving end of those "hurtful" phrases from a woman, don't rush to feel sad or give up. Try to calm down and analyze whether there's something you need to improve or if the two of you are genuinely not compatible. If you think it's worth it, adjust your strategy and keep trying; if not, then decisively let go and look for someone more suitable.
In summary, high EQ in relationships isn"t about blindly pleasing the other person but knowing how to make the right choices at the right times. I hope today's sharing can inspire you, and I welcome everyone to share their views and experiences in the comments section!