As a post-00s girl, I've recently noticed that many of my male friends are struggling to find girlfriends. Especially those with a smaller social circle, often referred to as "otaku," who feel hopeless about getting into a relationship. Actually, finding a girlfriend isn't as difficult as it seems; the key is to use the right methods.
Let me start with what I've observed. Many guys are actually quite good in terms of qualities, but they are too reclusive, spending all day at home playing games and watching anime, with a very limited social circle. I have a friend like this, who told me, "I even hesitate for a long time before adding a girl on WeChat, always feeling that she might look down on me." This mindset is really detrimental!
In fact, socializing doesn't have to be so complicated. I know a guy who is particularly smart. He likes Yi Yang Qianxi, so he joined a fan support group. Guess what? Not only did he meet many girls, but he also found a girlfriend! This is a typical example of "asymmetric competition" thinking, where standing out is easier in circles with more girls.
Speaking of this, I recall a particularly interesting comment from a netizen: "So chasing stars can also help you get into a relationship, I'm going to join Cai Xukun's fan group now!" Although it's a joke, the principle is true. Instead of competing with a bunch of guys on dating apps, it's better to find interest groups with more girls, such as baking, yoga, or pet groups.
For those particularly introverted guys, I suggest starting by making friends with more outgoing people. Outgoing people are like social catalysts; they always organize various gatherings and events. You just need to follow along and gradually meet more girls. Remember, you don't have to become a social butterfly overnight, but learn to leverage others' strengths.
Another important point is to relax your mindset. Many guys always have a "whitelist system," thinking this girl isn't suitable, that girl isn't worth knowing. Actually, meeting new friends is like casting a net—broaden your contacts first, then slowly filter. As another netizen said, "Add on WeChat first, delete if not suitable, it's better than missing an opportunity."
Finally, I want to say that finding a girlfriend really can't be rushed. Instead of being anxious all day, it's better to go out more and cultivate some hobbies. Who knows, you might just meet the right person in some interest group one day?
Remember, opportunities always favor the prepared. Instead of worrying at home, take action, step out of your comfort zone starting today, and meet more interesting people!