Recently, a friend came to chat with me, saying that she had encountered a distressing situation in her first relationship—her boyfriend was secretly flirting with someone else. Seeing her so upset, I suddenly remembered that I had gone through a similar experience before. Honestly, betrayal in a first love is really heart-wrenching, just as netizen "Old Wang Can't Sleep" said: "Encountering such a thing in your first relationship makes you feel really bad."
However, after years of ups and downs, I have summarized some comforting techniques. First of all, never start by saying something like "Don't be sad," as it sounds very perfunctory. I usually listen attentively to the other person's grievances first, as mentioned in the article: "What's wrong? What happened that made you unhappy?" This makes her feel that I genuinely care about her.
Sometimes, appropriate body language is also very important. I remember once when my best friend went through a breakup, I gave her a big hug. She later told me that the hug was more effective than a hundred words I could have said. As netizen "Sister Yu Talks About Emotions" said: "A warm hug is worth a thousand words."
Of course, a sense of humor is also essential. I often use some light-hearted words to ease the atmosphere, such as: "Why be gloomy? Come on, smile, you look the best when you smile." Or "Don't be gloomy, or you won't look pretty anymore." Although these words are a bit playful, they often make people laugh through their tears.
If the other person is willing, I will also take her to do some happy things, like eating desserts or watching movies. As mentioned in the article: "How about we do something you like, like watching a movie or eating desserts, to drive away the gloom." Such practical actions are often more effective than mere verbal comfort.
Finally, I want to say that the most important thing in comforting others is sincerity. As netizen "Yuexi Jiarui" said: "Sincerity is the best weapon to comfort a girl." So, rather than racking your brains to come up with fancy words, it's better to sincerely accompany the other person, letting her feel your care and support.
In conclusion, betrayal in a first love is indeed very saddening, but as long as we comfort with our hearts, we can always help the other person come out of the gloom. I hope these little techniques can help you, and I also hope that everyone can meet someone who truly treats them well.
