Recently, while chatting with my close friends, I noticed that everyone has their own dating woes. Some always seem to encounter unreliable men, others are constantly anxious in their relationships, and some, despite having good qualities, remain single. As someone who has been through it all, I want to share some of my dating insights, hoping to help those of you who are in search of true love.
Firstly, I believe many women fall into the trap of being overly concerned about their partner's feelings while neglecting their own. For instance, I have a friend who is always overly cautious during dates, afraid of saying something wrong that might upset her boyfriend. In reality, men prefer women who are genuine and natural. As the netizen "Little Bunny Be Good" said, "I used to always act like a lady, but later found that being myself made me more popular."
When it comes to expressing needs, it truly is an art. I used to sulk and wait for my boyfriend to guess what was on my mind. Later, I learned to say directly, "Honey, you've been so busy with work lately and haven't had time for me, I feel a bit down. Could we watch a movie together this weekend?" This way, I expressed my feelings and also provided a clear solution. Netizen "Lemon Not Cute" also shared, "After learning to communicate properly, my boyfriend said I became much more adorable."
Regarding choosing a partner, I think the most important aspects are character and responsibility. My cousin, before getting married, paid special attention to how her boyfriend treated his family. She said, "How can someone who isn't good to his mother and sister be good to you?" This makes a lot of sense. Netizen "Sunflower's Smile" also said, "Before getting married, it's essential to visit the other person's home; the influence of the family of origin is too significant."
Another crucial point is not to marry just anyone due to age or external pressures. I have a colleague who was desperate to get married and ended up in a marriage where their values didn't align, leading to a divorce. As netizen "Promise Under the Stars" aptly put it, "It's better to be single than to settle; happiness is your own, not for others to see."
Lastly, I want to emphasize that dating is something that requires learning. Take advantage of your youth to date more, accumulate experiences, and find the person who truly suits you. As netizen "Little Lucky" said, "The cost of trial and error is lowest when you're young; don't wait until you're older to regret not having dated more."
I hope my sharing can offer some inspiration. Remember, love is beautiful, but it's crucial to love the right person. Wishing everyone the best in finding their own happiness!
