Recently, while chatting with friends, we touched upon an interesting topic about relationships: In this fast-paced era, are conservative girls in relationships considered too "old-fashioned"? This topic reminded me of some of my own experiences and led me to ponder deeply.
I remember one date when the other person naturally wanted to hold my hand, and I instinctively pulled away. At that moment, I could feel the air suddenly go quiet, and the other person's eyes were filled with confusion. Honestly, I was also questioning myself at that time: Am I too conservative? Am I too unromantic?
But later, I gradually figured it out. As the netizen "初慕☂" said, in this era where everything is fast, wanting to slow down is not wrong. Everyone has different levels of acceptance and paces in intimate relationships, and the important thing is to find someone who is on the same wavelength as you.
Speaking of this, I recall a Korean drama I watched before, "Our Blues." The female lead in the drama impulsively had a relationship before she was ready, resulting in an unexpected pregnancy that completely disrupted her life. This made me even more firm in my belief: being conservative is not being rigid, but an attitude of being responsible for oneself.
Of course, I also understand that some boys might feel confused. As the netizen "智者宇宙RG" said, in this fast-food era, many people might think that being conservative is "playing the field" or "stringing someone along." But I believe that someone who truly likes you will respect your pace.
Actually, the most important thing in a relationship is communication and understanding. As mentioned in the first article, when a girl says she"s "tired," a high emotional intelligence response should be to listen, empathize, and encourage. Similarly, when a girl is more conservative in intimate relationships, boys should also give understanding and respect.
Speaking of this, I particularly agree with the concept of "creating space" mentioned in the first article. Sometimes, what we need is not for the other person to immediately understand us, but to give us some time and space to proceed at our own pace.
Finally, I want to say that whether fast or slow, there is no right or wrong. The important thing is to find someone who is willing to take it slow with you. As the netizen "郑小妮子" said, protecting oneself is never wrong.
So, dear girls, do not doubt yourself because of others" opinions. Your conservatism is not wrong; it is a manifestation of your responsibility towards yourself. Believe that one day, you will meet someone who is willing to take it slow with you.
Remember, true love is not about who accommodates whom, but about both people being able to be their most authentic selves by each other"s side.
