Perhaps many couples who have been together for a long time will face a common problem: two people have fewer and fewer topics to talk about after being together for a long time, and there is basically no communication all day long. I don’t know what you do every day, and you don’t know what you do every day. It’s not clear when I’m sad. I guess you may be surfing the Internet every day. We no longer share each other's joys, sorrows and joys. Every time we chat, there is a precursor to breaking up... It will definitely not work in the long run. What should we do?
1. Discover topics from trivial matters in life
After two people have been together for a certain period of time, there is no need to deliberately search for new topics, because the novelty of being together as a couple has a certain limit. The trivial matters in each other's lives are also touch points for emotional communication. The basic elements of firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce and vinegar constitute a three-dimensional life, which can be appropriately integrated into each other's circle of friends. The friends around them can also explore topic points and constantly understand each other's values. Occasionally, you can go out for a trip, give yourself a vacation, and give each other some time to get used to each other. Every couple will go through this process. Only by experiencing this marathon trip can they understand whether each other is truly suitable for the next journey.
In addition, if you really feel that there is no topic to talk about, don’t forcefully find a topic. Return to your normal life first and don’t think about it. Don’t force it, and give each other some space. As time goes by, you will be able to tell whether it is because you have nothing to talk about for the time being, or whether there is really no need to talk a lot.
2. Open up new topics
If two people have been together for a long time and have fewer and fewer topics, you You can try some new lifestyles together, try to contact some new people, or completely introduce the other person into your life, love her more deeply, and integrate her into your own. For example, if you have never tried surfing before, you might as well make an appointment to go surfing together in the summer; if two people don’t know how to skate, go and learn together. In the process, there will be a lot of topics... Don’t just because there are fewer and fewer topics. Thoughts of breaking up. It is precisely because people have been together for a long time that they have nothing to talk about. After this period of time, you will be very in love.
3. Cultivate common interests and hobbies
What are common interests? That is how to make your communication rich and colorful when you are chatting, from talking about nothing to talking about something. For example, what has she been doing recently? Watching movies, listening to music, reading books, eating delicious food, shopping, etc. You can cultivate your interests and hobbies from these aspects, ask her opinions, learn from her, etc. If, you If we all have a common language, you won’t feel like you have nothing to talk about.
Finally, if two people have been together for a long time and the topics have become less, it does not mean that your relationship has also weakened. Even if sometimes two people are together and not talking, you sit in front of the computer and typeYour games, she lies in bed and chases her TV series, rarely talking. The two of them just spend the weekend quietly by each other's company. It is also a very comfortable way to get along. It's okay for two people to be comfortable together, but it's not necessary. Keep talking.
