Recently, a friend shared his emotional struggles with me, which reminded me of my own confusion when I first started dating many years ago. He said that after confessing his feelings to a girl, she responded with a particularly "philosophical" statement, essentially saying, "You haven't seen all of me yet, and my flaws might disappoint you." This left him very confused, unsure of what the girl really meant.
Honestly, I couldn't help but laugh when I read that. Isn't this a classic case of a "girl's test"? I remember encountering a similar situation back then. At the time, I was very anxious, eager to know the other person's feelings immediately. But looking back now, such a reaction from a girl is actually quite normal.
As "Wudaokou Food God" commented: "Of course, you won't feel the same way about someone else, but you might develop different feelings." This statement is particularly interesting because it highlights a key point: feelings need time to settle. The reason girls respond this way is often because they are observing and confirming whether your feelings are genuine.
I have a friend, A Cheng, who is very experienced in this area. He always says that the most important thing in pursuing a girl is not confessing your feelings but proving your sincerity through actions. For example, ask her out and see if she is willing to spend time alone with you; during the date, naturally escalate the level of intimacy, such as holding hands, which can often reveal the other person's attitude.
Speaking of dates, A Cheng also shared a particularly practical tip: don't make sudden moves. For instance, suddenly showing up in the other person's city might seem romantic, but it could also put pressure on them. Instead, make plans in advance, giving the other person time to prepare, which makes it easier to see if she is genuinely interested in you.
I remember one time, A Cheng invited a girl to watch a movie. After the movie, they went out to eat, and the whole process felt very natural. While taking a walk after dinner, A Cheng naturally held the girl's hand, and she didn't refuse. This was a good sign, indicating that the girl was willing to continue developing the relationship.
However, A Cheng also warned that if the girl is just being polite, you need to be cautious. For example, if she says, "It's not easy for you to come here, so I should at least entertain you," this might be a hint that she is just fulfilling her duty as a host.
So, instead of obsessing over the other person's reaction after confessing, it's better to focus more on your actions. When it comes to emotions, you really can't rush things. As I often say, rather than guessing the other person's thoughts, it's better to genuinely feel every moment you spend together. After all, true feelings can withstand the test of time, right?