Question: Recently, I met a blind date girl through a friend’s girlfriend. We have been in contact for a while, met three or four times, and occasionally play games together. Yesterday, we went home after dinner and watching a movie. In the evening, she He sent me this paragraph:
I couldn’t sleep tonight and I thought about it. I think we are still not suitable, because I found that several times when I talked to you, I felt like you were choking me. I felt a little uncomfortable. I don’t know if you are dissatisfied with me. If I usually do anything to offend you, it is unintentional. loss.
Actually, I have no impression at all. Maybe it’s because I usually speak more directly... How should I handle and reply next, please give me your advice.
What should I do if the girl on a blind date says that we are not suitable and uncomfortable to get along with?
Answer: In fact, she can If you have insomnia, it means that you occupy a certain weight in her mind. It means that while she is in contact with you, she is also thinking about you and the direction of your relationship. Since she has requirements for you, I think the future is relatively promising.
But I think her dissatisfaction with you is actually more difficult for you to change. Because you didn't realize you had this problem, but she thought it was a big problem. It depends on whether you are willing to work hard for her. Maybe you usually like to quarrel with others? Or do you only show this trait in front of her? But no matter what, she may be a bit glassy and feels hurt by you often. I hope you can take care of her emotions.
If you like her and want to continue developing, you can ask her to give a few examples. Analyze it together and understand each other's thoughts, what she wants, and how far you can change it for her. If it is true that what you said went too far, it will be fine if you change it appropriately.
Then you say to her: Maybe the two of us haven’t been together long enough, and we both have our own way of speaking. , next time if you feel uncomfortable, you can tell me directly. I hope that in our relationship, we can both be true to ourselves and go on happily.
But if you think what she said is just a small problem, you have no problem, but she is too fussy about it, and you also have nothing to do with her, and feel that you don’t have to do anything for her, then Just maintain the status quo. If you can achieve it, you can't force it if you can't.
