Recently, while chatting with a few single friends, I noticed a common frustration: conversations with women often miss the mark, either becoming awkward or fizzling out. Honestly, I've been there too, and it feels like playing a game you can never win—frustrating and disheartening.
Actually, chatting with women isn't that hard; the key is to master a few techniques. First, we need to understand that women are emotionally driven creatures; they care more about the emotional experience of the conversation than the topic itself. For instance, I once had a great start with a woman, but later realized she wasn't interested in what I was saying but rather in how I said it. This made me realize that conversation isn't just about conveying information; it's more about conveying emotions.
So, how can we make conversations more interesting? Here, I'd like to share a "dual-line thinking" method. The first line of thought is about the topic and direction of the conversation, which is the most basic, often referred to as straight male logical thinking. For example, asking a woman a question, giving feedback based on her response, and then continuing to ask questions. Although this method might be a bit dull, it at least ensures the continuity of the conversation.
However, relying solely on this line of thought isn't enough; we also need a second line: incorporating humor and teasing elements. On the basis of the first line, add elements like misinterpretation, teasing, joking, telling stories, using internet slang, and funny catchphrases to make the conversation more engaging. For example, once I asked a woman, "Where are you from?" She replied, "Sichuan." I then said, "Hmm, you don't seem like you're from Sichuan." She asked curiously, "Really?" I smiled and said, "I heard girls from there are quite feisty, but you seem quite gentle." She laughed heartily, and the atmosphere lightened up immediately.
Of course, negative feedback from women during conversations is inevitable, and we need to learn to respond humorously. For instance, if a woman says, "I'm not interested in you," responding directly, whether to prove yourself or to argue, will only trap you in her test and lead to rejection. The correct approach is not to respond directly but to shift the topic humorously. For example, you could say, "With the pandemic so severe, if you catch a cold, wouldn't we both be quarantined in a small dark room?" This avoids awkwardness and makes you seem fun.
Finally, when the conversation is going well and you want to get closer to the woman, it's time to ask her out. However, due to her reserved nature, she might decline, and that's when we need to guide her appropriately to ease her concerns. For example, if she says, "I'm afraid you might eat me," and you respond, "How could I? Don't worry," you're actually following her "you're a bad guy" line of thought, which is not favorable. The correct response is, "You better not secretly play tricks on me." This balances the relationship and creates a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, providing a reasonable excuse for meeting up.
In conclusion, chatting with women isn't difficult; the key is to master some techniques, learn to engage their emotions, and make the conversation interesting. I hope these tips help, and I wish everyone success in finding a partner soon!