When it comes to the matter of dating, I've recently had quite a few insights to share with everyone. As someone who's been through it, I believe the most crucial aspect in a relationship is—communication. Yes, it's that simple, yet it's often the most overlooked.
Let's start with the women's side. I've noticed that many women tend to habitually hide their needs in a relationship, waiting for the other person to guess. Honestly, this can be quite exhausting. Take my friend Qingmei, for example. She's never been good at expressing her needs since she was young, and as a result, her first date ended up at an extremely spicy Chongqing hotpot restaurant, leaving her in tears and with a runny nose. Her boyfriend felt terrible afterward and said, "You silly girl, why didn't you say you couldn't handle spicy food earlier?" From then on, Qingmei gradually learned to express her thoughts.
The truth is, men aren"t mind readers. As the netizen "70s Drifter Zhi Ge" put it, sometimes women think "you should understand me," but men might genuinely not get it. Another friend of mine, Yuzhu, is like this. She clearly wanted coconut water but said "whatever," and when her boyfriend bought iced tea instead, she was upset. This guessing game can easily sour a relationship.
Now, let"s talk about the men's side. I've noticed that many decent guys struggle to find girlfriends, often because they're too "honest." Here, "honest" isn't a compliment but refers to being too rigid and dogmatic. For instance, a guy I know is quite well-off but too serious, not even daring to call his girlfriend "honey," and after half a year of pursuing, there was no progress.
Sometimes, women just need a bit of "sweet talk." It's effective to paint a rosy picture occasionally, compliment her beauty, especially in front of others. Of course, all this should be based on sincerity and not overdone. Like a masseur friend of mine, despite his average conditions, he managed to win over a girl much better off than him with his excellent massage skills and sincere attitude.
Speaking of massages, it"s indeed a great way to enhance a relationship. My masseur friend often says that when your massage skills are so good that they're irreplaceable, and she really needs you, feelings naturally develop. This reminds me of a netizen's comment: "Love is sometimes the impulse brought by hormones; being too rational might make you miss out on many beautiful things."
In conclusion, in the game of love, women should learn to express themselves boldly, and men should know how to use the right "tactics." Of course, the most important thing is sincerity and thoughtfulness. Like Qingmei and her boyfriend, they're now living sweetly because she's learned to express herself, and he's always been attentive to her little preferences.
Finally, here"s a piece of advice: A good relationship is never a guessing game but about understanding each other's unspoken words and implied meanings. I hope everyone can find someone who understands them and enjoy a relationship without the need for guessing!
