Recently, I came across an intriguing perspective on love shared by the Raptors' Barnes online. He mentioned that finding a girlfriend is actually quite simple—just go to a mall, see someone you like, and ask for her number without being shy. This might sound a bit straightforward, but upon closer thought, it makes a lot of sense.
When it comes to love, I've noticed that many girls (including myself) tend to get overly tangled. We like someone but dare not confess, fearing rejection or loss of face. Once in a relationship, we become anxious, constantly worrying if the other person might leave. After a breakup, we can't let go, making the memories linger longer than the actual experience. This state is truly exhausting.
I remember liking a guy once; my heart was racing, yet I pretended not to care. When friends asked, I stubbornly denied any feelings. The result? He ended up with someone else, and I was left with regret. Looking back, admitting you like someone isn"t shameful—it's actually a brave act.
As Barnes said, go after what you want without shyness. There are no gender restrictions in love; being proactive as a girl can actually make you more attractive. A commenter mentioned "being honest with each other," which I think is spot on. The most important thing in a relationship is sincerity; hiding your feelings can easily make you miss the right person.
Another crucial point is not to undervalue yourself. I used to think I wasn't good enough for the person I liked, and when someone confessed to me, I thought they were joking. Over time, I learned to accept myself and realized that low self-esteem only makes you less confident. Love is about equality; the more you try to please others, the less they value you.
Regarding post-breakup states, I strongly agree with a line from the article: "How can you embrace happiness with hands full of trash?" Instead of dwelling on the past, it's better to manage the present well. A reader mentioned feeling relieved after a breakup because they no longer had to worry about the other person leaving. This sounds a bit sad but illustrates a point: rather than being anxious, it's better to enjoy the moment.
So, love really doesn't have to be so twisted. If you like someone, go after them; if you break up, let go and don't burden yourself. Like Barnes, if you see someone you like, approach them bravely without shyness. After all, life is short; why waste time on unnecessary internal conflicts? Let go, accept the present, and believe that everything is arranged for the best.
