Recently, while chatting with my best friend about relationships, I suddenly realized that many girls tend to make some common "mistakes" in love. For example, they throw themselves completely into a relationship, wanting to be together 24/7, or they sacrifice everything for their partner, lowering themselves too much. Honestly, seeing my friends like this really pains me.
I remember one time when a friend was sick, her boyfriend just casually asked, "Are you okay?" and that was it. She complained to me, "I had a fever of 39 degrees, and he just brushed me off like that." I immediately told her that someone who truly cares about you will show their concern through actions. For instance, asking if you need medicine, if you need someone to accompany you to the hospital, or at least keeping an eye on your condition.
This reminded me of a high emotional intelligence response guide I once read. When a girl is sick, a guy can do the following: express concern immediately and ask about specific symptoms; share his own experiences of being sick to make her feel understood; offer practical advice like drinking more hot water and resting; most importantly, make her feel your support and companionship. As one netizen said, "When you're sick, hearing 'I'm here' means more than anything."
But these alone are not enough in a relationship. I"ve noticed that many girls tend to lose themselves in love, focusing all their attention on their partner. I have a classmate who lived with her boyfriend for four years, doing all the laundry and cooking, even washing his feet. And the result? He ended up marrying someone else, saying, "I need a wife, not a maid." This incident made me deeply realize that equality and mutual respect are the most important things in love.
So, I want to tell all girls in relationships: while loving others, make sure to love yourself well. Maintain your independence and financial capability, and don"t give up your career and life for love. As one netizen commented, "Love is the icing on the cake, not the rescue in a snowstorm." What we should aim for is mutual fulfillment in love, not just endless giving and sacrificing.
Finally, to those reading this article: whether you"re single or in a relationship, always remember that you deserve to be cherished and treated well. When you're sick, you look forward to a warm embrace; when you're sad, you need someone who understands and listens; when you're happy, you hope someone can share your joy. May we all meet someone who treats us with care, and may we all remain clear-headed and independent in love.
