Recently, while browsing videos, I came across numerous discussions on "how to find a girlfriend." Honestly, as someone who has been through it, I find this topic quite intriguing. Many people think finding a girlfriend is difficult, especially for those honest and decent guys who often end up being labeled as "nice guys." In reality, finding a girlfriend isn't that complicated; the key lies in understanding some "techniques." Today, I'll share my thoughts on this.
First, we must acknowledge that the thought processes of women and men are indeed different. Women are more emotional and are easily influenced by feelings and emotions. Therefore, if you want to win over a woman, relying solely on being "honest" and "sincere" isn't enough; you also need to learn how to "paint a big picture." By "painting a big picture," I don't mean deceiving her, but rather learning to depict a beautiful future life together. For example, you can talk to her about your future plans, such as traveling together, raising pets, or even buying a house. Women naturally prefer men who provide a sense of security. If you can make her feel that there's a future with you, you're halfway to success.
Speaking of this, I recall a comment from a netizen who said, "My girlfriend was won over by my 'big picture painting,' and now we've been married for three years, and the picture is almost realized." You see, this trick really works, but the key is to keep it moderate and not exaggerate too much, or it might backfire.
Secondly, complimenting women is really important. Many men think complimenting a woman on her beauty is too cliché, but women really appreciate it. Especially when you compliment her in front of others, she will feel particularly honored. Even if she is average-looking, you should learn to notice her strengths, such as her smile, her demeanor, or even her fashion sense. Women are vain, and you have to admit that. As someone in the comments section said, "My girlfriend didn't have feelings for me at first, but after I complimented her every day, she gradually developed a liking for me."
Lastly, I want to talk about the technique of "calling her wife." It might sound a bit corny, but it's actually a form of psychological suggestion. When your relationship with a woman has progressed a bit, you can try calling her "wife," even if you're not at that stage yet. This form of address will subconsciously make her feel that your relationship is already very intimate. Of course, this is on the premise that she doesn't dislike you, or it might have the opposite effect. A guy in the comments section shared his experience: "When I was pursuing my girlfriend, I called her 'wife' every day, and later she really started treating me as her husband. Now we're married."
Of course, the premise of these techniques is that you are somewhat compatible. If the gap is too large, relying solely on these might not be enough. However, if you have a special skill, like massage therapy, the situation changes. As mentioned by a netizen in the article, he won over a woman who was much better off than him with his massage skills. Once a woman becomes emotionally and physically dependent on you, she will be devoted to you.
In conclusion, finding a girlfriend isn't that hard. The key is to understand women's psychology and learn to express yourself in ways they appreciate. Of course, sincerity is the most important; techniques are just supplementary. Don't put the cart before the horse. I hope these tips are helpful, and I wish everyone can find their ideal partner!
