As a post-00s girl, I recently discussed love topics with my close friends and found that many of our otaku male friends are struggling to find a partner. Honestly, seeing them spend all day at home playing games and binge-watching shows makes me anxious for them. Today, I want to talk about how otaku can find love from a girl's perspective, as well as things girls should pay attention to in relationships.
First, let's talk about otaku finding love. Many otaku aren't uninterested in dating; they just don't know how to start. I have a friend, a typical otaku, who is obsessed with anime and finds going out a hassle. He eventually mustered the courage to attend an anime convention, where he met a girl who also loves anime. They've been together for over a year now. So, otaku, don't confine yourselves at home. Go out and participate in interest-based activities; you might just meet someone who shares your passions.
When it comes to relationship dynamics, I believe the most important thing is to maintain your sense of self. I've seen too many girls lose themselves completely once they start dating, revolving their lives around their boyfriends and even giving up their hobbies and social circles. This is not healthy! Take my friend Xiao A, for example. She used to be a very independent career woman, but after getting into a relationship, she became overly focused on pleasing her boyfriend, which ended up putting too much pressure on him, leading to their breakup.
Another crucial point is not to over-invest in the relationship. I have a classmate who lived with her boyfriend for four years, doing all the housework, cooking, and even washing his feet. In the end, her boyfriend broke up with her, saying, "I need a wife, not a maid." Hearing this, I felt it was so unfair to her. Love should be reciprocal; one-sided giving only makes the other party take it for granted, and ultimately, you're the one who gets hurt.
Moreover, girls must protect themselves in relationships. While premarital cohabitation is common, I personally advise against moving in together too soon. After all, living together without fully understanding each other carries significant risks. Even if you do cohabit, make sure to take safety precautions to avoid unplanned pregnancies. I have friends who had to rush into marriage due to an unplanned pregnancy, and their married life hasn't been happy. So, girls, remember to love yourself while loving someone else.
Finally, I want to say that love is just a part of life, not the whole of it. Whether you're a man or a woman, you should have your own career and life. Even if a relationship fails, don't feel like the sky is falling. As I often say, "Enjoy love when it comes, and live well when it goes." I hope every otaku can find their happiness, and every girl can maintain her sense of self and live a fulfilling life in relationships.
By the way, I saw a comment saying, "The most important thing in a relationship is equality and respect." I completely agree! Whether you're a man or a woman, maintaining an equal mindset and mutual respect and understanding in a relationship is crucial. Only then can you go the distance. What do you think? Feel free to share your views and experiences in the comments!