Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of relationships, I found that many of us have our own set of confusions. Women worry about not finding a reliable partner, while men struggle to win over the women they admire. As someone who has been through it, I’d like to share some insights that might inspire those of you who are currently seeking love.
First, let’s talk about the three major taboos for women when looking for a partner. The first one is not to rely too much on your best friend’s advice. A friend of mine learned this the hard way when she brought her best friend along on a blind date, only to have the man fall for her best friend instead. While this might sound like a soap opera plot, it’s not uncommon in real life. Just like in the drama "The First Half of My Life," where Luo Zijun and Tang Jing’s friendship ended up complicating their romantic lives. So, when it comes to matters of the heart, it’s important to make your own decisions. While you can consider your best friend’s opinions, don’t take them as gospel.
The second taboo is not to be overly sensitive. Women are naturally more emotionally attuned, but being too sensitive can sometimes backfire. My cousin once had a huge fight with her boyfriend just because he talked a bit more to a female colleague. In reality, many misunderstandings are just products of our own overthinking. As the philosopher Locke wisely said, life is full of hardships, so don’t be overly sensitive about every little thing. Learning to observe calmly is key to understanding someone’s true nature.
The third taboo is not to constantly ask for things. I know a woman who always asked her boyfriend to buy her this and that during their relationship. When they broke up, the man demanded she return the money, leading to an unpleasant situation. It’s crucial to maintain financial independence in a relationship. Don’t lose your dignity over small gains. As Yi Shu once said, no matter what kind of relationship you’re in, you should always strive to motivate and renew yourself.
Now, let’s discuss the three-step method for men to find love. The first step is to enhance your charm. A friend of mine used to complain about not being able to find a girlfriend. But after he started working out and learning new skills, his whole demeanor changed, and he quickly found himself in a relationship. Charm isn’t just about looks; it’s more about your inner cultivation and how you carry yourself.
The second step is to be bold and thick-skinned. When pursuing a woman, don’t be too concerned about saving face. A colleague of mine used to bring breakfast to the woman he liked every day. Even though he was rejected several times at first, he eventually won her over. Of course, being thick-skinned here doesn’t mean being pushy; it’s about showing sincerity and patience.
The third step is to be attentive and considerate. Women pay a lot of attention to details. When my husband was pursuing me, he remembered every little thing I liked, which made me feel incredibly warm. So, when you’re trying to win a woman’s heart, pay attention to her preferences and offer timely care—it’s often more effective than giving expensive gifts.
Finally, I’d like to quote a netizen: "Improve yourself, believe in yourself, and stay true to yourself—that’s what’s reliable." Whether you’re looking for a partner or pursuing love, the most important thing is to be the best version of yourself. Love isn’t everything in life, but good love can make life more beautiful. I hope everyone can find their own happiness.
Remember, relationships are a form of knowledge that requires effort and care. Stay rational, but don’t lose your emotional side. Believe in love, but don’t be blind to it. May everyone find their own happiness on the journey of love.