Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about the topic of love, and suddenly found it quite intriguing. Love, in essence, can be both simple and complex. Today, I want to share some of my thoughts with you, especially regarding the "unspoken rules" of value relationships and female mate selection.
First and foremost, it's important to acknowledge that love is, at its core, a form of "transaction." Don't rush to disagree; hear me out. As mentioned in the article, the foundation of social relationships is economic relationships, and romantic relationships are no exception. The kind of person you are will attract a similar kind of person. If you are a high-value individual, you naturally attract high-value partners. This is akin to products in the market; high-value items are always more sought after.
But here"s the question: what if you're not a high-value person yet? Don't worry, the article provides an answer. You can showcase your potential, allowing others to see your future possibilities. In simpler terms, make people believe you have a "bright future." This tactic is quite effective, as who doesn't like someone with potential?
Of course, if you"re neither high-value nor willing to strive, it's not entirely hopeless. You just need to look for a partner within a lower social stratum. It may sound harsh, but that's the reality. As the article states, even poor individuals can find stunningly beautiful wives; the key is to know your place.
However, love isn"t just about value exchange; it also involves many emotional and life details. Especially for women, there are certain "pitfalls" in love that need to be avoided. For instance, don't let love consume you. Some women lose themselves completely once they enter a relationship, revolving their lives around their boyfriends, wanting to be together 24/7. The result? The man gets tired, breaks up, and the woman feels like her world has collapsed. In reality, love is just a part of life, not the entirety. You still have your career, friends, and hobbies, none of which should be abandoned because of love.
Another point is that excessive giving is a major taboo. Love is a two-way street, not a one-sided sacrifice. Some women, to show their virtue, do laundry, cook, and buy luxury items for their boyfriends while dressing plainly themselves. The result? The man not only doesn"t appreciate it but may also see you as "too submissive." As mentioned in the article, a woman who washed her boyfriend's feet ended up being dumped after four years of cohabitation. Men don't need a servant; they need an equal partner.
Lastly, protecting yourself is crucial in a relationship. While premarital cohabitation is common, it should be approached with caution. Moving in together too soon, without fully understanding the other person, can lead to unnecessary harm. Especially for women, your body is your own, and it must be protected. If a man truly loves you, he won"t let you get pregnant repeatedly, nor will he force you into marriage because of pregnancy.
In summary, love is a subject that requires wisdom and skill. Whether you"re a man or a woman, it's essential to stay clear-headed in love, loving both your partner and yourself. Love is a two-person endeavor; only when both parties contribute can the relationship go the distance.
That"s all for today's sharing. If you have any thoughts, feel free to leave a comment, and let's discuss the intricacies of love together.