Recently, while chatting with a few single friends, I noticed that everyone seems quite anxious about finding a partner. One friend mentioned that he had been rejected three times in a row and now hesitates to make the first move when he likes someone. This reminded me of a perspective I once came across: there are "hidden rules" to finding a girlfriend, and mastering these can really save you a lot of detours.
Firstly, I've observed that many guys make the mistake of rushing into confessing their feelings too quickly. As "Er Lei" in the comments section pointed out, after a rejection, the relationship often becomes lukewarm. In reality, feelings need time to develop, much like simmering a good soup—if the heat isn't right, the flavor won't be either. I know a friend who is particularly skilled at pursuing women; he never confesses his feelings right away. Instead, he starts by being friends, gradually learning about the other person's interests and finding common topics to discuss.
Speaking of which, "Old Peng's Lecture" in the comments raised an interesting question: How long does this process take? Honestly, there's no standard answer. Just like in dating, everyone has their own pace. The key is to let things flow naturally and not rush the process just to speed things up.
I strongly agree with the article"s point that finding a girlfriend follows a certain process: from initial acquaintance to becoming ordinary friends, then to a confidant relationship, and finally to an intimate stage. Trying to skip these steps and jump straight into a relationship is as unrealistic as trying to become fat in one meal. As one netizen said, "Everyone knows the theory, but..." Indeed, knowing and doing are two different things. But at least we should understand that relationships need to be nurtured and cannot be rushed.
Another point I find particularly important is not to overly please women. As "User6307044998380" in the comments said, "Why not just find someone who likes you?" While there's some truth to this, relationships are a two-way street. Over-pleasing can actually make women feel pressured and have the opposite effect. I suggest starting by being friends with women, gradually getting to know each other, and letting them see the real you.
Finally, I want to say that finding a girlfriend really can"t be rushed. As mentioned in the comments, the best technique is to avoid making mistakes. Instead of rushing to confess your feelings, focus on improving yourself and becoming more attractive. After all, when it comes to relationships, it's all about letting things happen naturally. I hope everyone can find their own happiness!
