Recently, while chatting with my close friends, I noticed that many of us are experiencing some level of dating anxiety. Some of my girlfriends feel like they can never meet the right person, while others keep making the same mistakes in relationships. As someone who has been through it, I want to share some insights today.
First, I think many women fall into the trap of seeking a "perfect boyfriend." We often expect our partners to read our minds and take care of us in every possible way. However, the reality is that men and women think quite differently. Take my friend Xiaomei, for example. She always complained that her boyfriend wasn't considerate enough, only to realize later that she had never clearly expressed her needs.
Speaking of expressing needs, I've noticed an interesting phenomenon. Many women like to test their boyfriends by saying "guess what," which often leads to them feeling upset. In fact, directly saying "I'm feeling down today and need a hug" or "I hope you remember our anniversary" is more likely to get the response you want. As the netizen @DeerInLove said, "I used to think my boyfriend didn't understand me, but later I realized I was just too reserved."
When it comes to finding a partner, I believe the most important thing is to maintain an open mind. Don't let a couple of failures make you doubt yourself. I remember when I first graduated, I went through a particularly anxious period. Later, I adjusted my mindset and focused on improving myself, and that's when I met my current boyfriend.
Regarding criteria for choosing a partner, I think a few things are crucial: character, ambition, and a sense of responsibility. Don"t be fooled by sweet words; see if he's willing to take real actions for you. As the netizen @SunnyDay said, "A man willing to spend money on you isn't necessarily true love, but one who isn't willing definitely isn't."
Lastly, it's important to know when to cut your losses in a relationship. If a relationship is causing you pain, don't hold on just because you're reluctant to let go of past investments. Remember, you deserve to be treated well.
I hope these insights are helpful. Remember, love isn"t everything in life, but good love can make life more beautiful. Wishing every woman the happiness she deserves!