Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of dating, it really made me reflect deeply. Honestly, dating can sometimes feel like solving a complex math problem, especially when you're faced with women's "subtext"—it can be even more challenging than the college entrance exam. Today, I want to talk about how to understand women's true feelings from their "words within words," and share some of my own insights.
First, we have to admit that women's speech is truly an art. Their words often carry more than just their literal meaning, hiding various subtle intentions. For example, when she says "I'm fine," she might actually mean "I'm not fine, come comfort me." If you really think she's fine at this moment, you're making a big mistake. As my friend said, "When a woman says she's fine, she's not; when she says 'whatever,' she means 'not whatever.'" Although this sounds a bit teasing, there's some truth to it.
Another example is when a woman says, "You're busy, don't worry about me," the subtext might be "How dare you not worry about me?" If you actually go about your business at this time, she might feel that you don't care enough about her. So, guys in relationships, don't be too "honest"—when it's time to comfort, comfort; when it's time to care, care.
Speaking of being "honest," I really have to vent a bit. Many guys think that being honest, upright, and able to earn money will surely help them find a girlfriend. But reality is often harsh, and sometimes being too honest becomes a "shortcoming." Like a comment I saw online, "Honest people are too dogmatic, not as good as bad boys." Although this is a bit harsh, it's not entirely without merit. Women sometimes prefer guys who can give them "fantasies," like painting a big picture of a beautiful future life, or complimenting her beauty, especially in front of others. These seemingly "routine" actions actually fulfill women's emotional needs.
Of course, these skills are not foolproof. You first need to ensure that you and the woman are on similar levels; otherwise, if you paint a big picture, she might say you"re bragging; if you compliment her beauty, she might call you a pervert; if you call her "wife," she might accuse you of being a rogue. So, while skills are important, you first need to have an "entry ticket."
Speaking of which, I want to share a particularly interesting case. There was a guy who was actually quite average—rural household, no car, no house—but he had a unique skill: traditional Chinese massage therapy. With this skill, he not only won over his girlfriend but also made her pursue him. Because his massage skills were so good, when the girl felt unwell, only he could make her feel better. Once this sense of dependency was established, it was hard for the girl to leave him. So, sometimes, having a skill that others can't replace can really give you an advantage in dating.
Finally, I want to say that dating really shouldn't be too rational. Love is inherently an impulse, an illusion. Women are more prone to impulses than men, but the premise is that they must be emotionally dependent on you. So, rather than obsessing over material conditions like houses and cars, it's better to spend more time understanding her emotional needs and building that irreplaceable sense of dependency.
In conclusion, dating is a subject that requires continuous learning and practice. I hope today"s sharing can bring some inspiration to everyone, and I welcome you to share your dating experiences and insights in the comments. After all, when it comes to dating, everyone has their own story.
