Chatting can be said to be the most important and critical thing when chasing girls. Only by establishing a sense of security through chatting can girls take off their guard against you who are not so familiar with you. But too many boys don’t know how to chat, and they get into awkward chatting with girls after just a few words. So how to avoid awkward chatting with girls?
As the saying goes, food is the most important thing for people. Here we take the most common and applicable "eating" as the topic. Boys who are not good at talking will probably only ask "did you eat?" and "what did you eat?" and then start to embarrass each other.
In fact, correct chatting requires some skills. In order to facilitate everyone's understanding, here is a two-step cycle.
The first is status, and the second is feeling.
Let’s imagine that starting from “Did you eat?”, the girl can only answer whether she ate or not. This does not prevent us from saying “What did I eat?” and then add the food tag. Make you feel.
For example, I had a dish of tomato scrambled eggs for lunch, which tasted a little sweet. This is the state.
Then, especially like what my mother did, this is the feeling.
If the other party has no reaction, we can continue to extend it to a new state.
For example, I plan to go home to visit my mother on the weekend. In my hometown of Qingdao, seafood is very cheap.
This has moved from eating to hometown, and then back to eating. At this time, you can actively guide the other person to join the topic.
You can ask, "Do you like seafood?" "You must have no idea how cheap our seafood is, what is the price of the cheapest seafood you have ever eaten before" and so on.
If the other party still replies to you in a sloppy way, don’t panic and continue to cycle through the two-step method of state sensing.
For example, many of our people there have gone out on boats to catch seafood. This is the state of things.
Then, I quite like fishing, this is my feeling.
Then, whenever I am busy at work for a period of time, I will find a suburb to go fishing. This is my state.
One more thing, that kind of relaxation is much better than sleeping for me. This is how I feel.
Finally, how do you relax? This is a guide.
At this point, the conversation has changed to hobbies, but the change of topic is not abrupt at all.
Of course, one very important point is that you must not fall into talking to yourself.
We use these two steps in a cycle. The purpose is to guide the girl to join the conversation by constantly switching states and feelings, to test the other party's interest, and to find common ground between you. With common ground, you can It is easier to establish a sense of security.
In addition, it is very necessary for us to pay attention to the girl’s emotions when chatting.
Girls are much more wary of the opposite sex they meet for the first time than we are.
The way we can ease the other person’s vigilance is as mentioned above, use the two-step cycle method on insensitive topics, first reveal some of your own situation, let her get familiar with you, and set the stage for the situation. Emotions, and then guide her to talk about herself and turn into a listener.
Some friends don’t understand the importance of foreshadowing, so even if they know some of the girl’s interests and hobbies through chatting before, they still use the other person’s preferences. Once the topic is opened, once the other party becomes emotionally resistant, he is likely to become an annoying chatterer.
Finally, whether it is a smooth start or a headwind, when you observe that a girl smiles reluctantly and often looks at her mobile phone. , when the attitude is cold, don’t continue. It’s better to get out in time and leave a good impression that you know how to measure, so that we can talk again next time.
