Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of guys pursuing girls, I found it quite intriguing. Honestly, many guys feel they're not good enough or find it hard to understand what girls are saying when they're trying to woo them. In reality, girls often embed a lot of "subtext" in their words, which we just fail to decode.
Let's talk about the subtext in what girls say. Have you ever encountered a situation where a girl says, "I've been really busy lately," and you think she's rejecting you? Actually, she might be hinting, "I've been a bit tired lately, could you show me more care?" Or when she says, "I don't think we're a good match," you might think she's rejecting you, but she could be testing you, "Could you put in more effort to make me feel we are a good match?" Sometimes, what girls say is like a riddle that needs to be decoded.
I remember a time when a friend told me that the girl he liked always said, "I think you're great, but let's just be friends." He was really disheartened and thought it was over. Later, I asked him, "Have you considered that she might be testing you? To see if you really like her or are just casually pursuing her?" He had an epiphany, put in more effort, and eventually won her over. So, sometimes, what girls say isn't a rejection but an opportunity for you to prove yourself.
Now, let's discuss how average guys can pursue girls. Most guys are just average, but that doesn't stop them from finding a girlfriend. The key is to find your own shining points and create attraction. For example, I have a friend who didn't think he was special, but he loved cooking and often posted his culinary creations on social media. As a result, his current girlfriend was attracted by his cooking. See, that's the difference. While everyone is busy with work, he suddenly posts a table full of delicious food, and naturally, girls find him different.
Another important point is to expand your resources. With so many social apps available, don't underestimate their role. A friend of mine met his current girlfriend on a social app. He said he didn't trust these platforms at first, but later found that by properly packaging himself and showcasing his strengths, he could really attract many people. So, don't ignore the information on social apps; manage your image well, and opportunities will naturally come.
Lastly, establishing clear criteria for a partner is also crucial. Many people always say, "I want to find someone I click with," but "clicking" is too vague. You need to know exactly what you want to find the right person faster. A friend of mine was like this; he always felt "everyone seems suitable, yet not quite," but once he clarified his standards, he quickly found the right person.
So, it's not that hard for average guys to pursue girls. The key is to understand the subtext in what girls say, find your own shining points, expand your resources, and clarify your standards. As long as you put your heart into it, opportunities will come. Don't always think you're not good enough; everyone has their unique qualities, you just haven't discovered them yet.
Finally, sharing a comment from a netizen: "Pursuing a girl is like solving a puzzle; sometimes you think she's rejecting you, but actually, she's giving you a chance. The key is to read her subtext carefully and not give up easily." This is so well said, and I hope every guy can find his own happiness.