As someone who has been through it all, I really want to talk to those of you who are currently seeking love. Recently, I've seen many friends discussing topics about dating, which reminded me of my own confusion and uncertainties back then. Today, I’d like to share some practical dating advice with you, hoping it will be helpful.
First and foremost, before looking for a partner, it's essential to understand yourself. I remember when I first started looking for a girlfriend, I was always confused, not knowing what I really wanted. Later, I made a list, jotting down the traits of my ideal partner: cheerful personality, shared interests, similar values... This list really helped me a lot, giving me a clear direction in the vast sea of people.
Speaking of social circles, I have a friend who is particularly interesting. In order to meet new people, he signed up for various hobby classes, from baking to yoga, from photography to rock climbing, becoming a "hobby class enthusiast." And the result? Not only did he find a like-minded girlfriend, but he also gained a bunch of new skills. So, don't always stay at home; go out to meet the right person.
In the process of dating, honest communication is really important. I have a colleague who, when she first started dating, always made her partner guess her thoughts, resulting in many misunderstandings. Later, she learned to express herself directly, and her relationship became more stable. As Wang Lili said in the comments, these suggestions are really useful; the earlier you know, the better.
Regarding giving and receiving, I think the most important thing is to maintain balance. I remember a netizen shared that she always gave silently, and as a result, her partner took it for granted and eventually felt it was only natural. So, give in moderation, and also let the other person know about your efforts.
Finally, I want to say that love is not everything in life. I"ve seen too many friends give up their hobbies and interests for the sake of a relationship, only to lose their attractiveness in the end. Maintaining your independence and individuality can make the relationship last longer.
Remember, good love is about mutual achievement, not mutual consumption. I hope everyone can find someone who lets you be yourself and is willing to grow with you. Keep it up!
