Emotional intelligence refers to an individual’s emotional intelligence and skills in interpersonal communication, which mainly includes four aspects: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management. Improving your emotional intelligence can not only enhance your social skills, but also enable you to better interact with the opposite sex. This article will introduce 35 speaking skills to improve emotional intelligence and help readers chat better with the opposite sex.
1. Take the initiative to ask the other party questions
When interacting with the opposite sex, don’t always talk about yourself. When talking about things, give the other party a certain space for chatting, and take the initiative to ask the other party about their thoughts, feelings and experiences. This will make the other person feel that you care about him/her and help you understand each other better.
2. Listen to the other party’s speech
During the conversation, you must listen patiently to the other party’s speech, do not interrupt, and do not blindly focus only on your own thoughts, but show your interest in the other party’s speech. The other person’s respect and attention. This will make the other person feel valued and more willing to communicate with you.
3. Pay attention to body language
Body language is a very important means of communication. You should pay attention to your expressions, postures, gestures and other non-verbal words, and express your emotions through body language. and attitude. For example, a smile can convey your friendliness and approachability, and eye contact can show your sincerity and trust.
4. Be good at using humor
Humor is a bridge to the souls of the opposite sex, but you must pay attention to the scale and timing of humor. Moderate humor can enhance the pleasure of communication, but excessive humor can enhance the pleasure of communication. Humor may make the other person feel uncomfortable, so be careful with it.
5. Show confidence and independence
Showing confidence and independence is one of the important factors in attracting the opposite sex. Don't pay too much attention to the other party's responses and reactions, but show your independent character and self-confidence.
6. Cultivate emotional resonance
When talking to the other party, try to understand the other party’s thoughts and feelings as much as possible, and show resonance and emotional understanding. This can deepen your connection with the other person and enhance your emotional interaction.
7. Pay attention to the other party’s context
When talking, you should pay attention to the other party’s language environment and cultural background, understand the other party’s identity and background as much as possible, and avoid unintentional offense and misunderstanding.
8. Explore the other person’s hobbies and interests in a targeted manner
Understanding the other person’s hobbies and interests is a good way to have a conversation and can provide topics for chatting. If you know nothing about the other person’s hobbies or interests, don’t be afraid to ask them and show your desire and interest in knowing more about the other person.
9. Actively express your own ideas
When communicating with the opposite sex, you should express your ideas and attitudes appropriately, and do not compromise or sacrifice your principles easily. This can Let the other party understand you better and enhance your understanding ofside’s influence.
10. Make the other person feel valued and respected
When communicating with the opposite sex, you must show respect and attention to the other person, and do not belittle or ignore the other person's value and contribution, so that It can enhance the trust and goodwill of the other party.
11. Avoid using offensive language
In conversations, avoid using offensive language and accusatory words. Show your calmness and reason. Don’t Losing your temper impulsively or being affected in any way.
12. Avoid bragging too much
During the conversation, you should appropriately show your strengths and benefits, but do not brag too much, which may make the other party feel bored and unhappy. Being impatient can have a negative impact.
13. Show concern and concern for others
When communicating, do not always talk about yourself, but should show concern and concern for others, which can strengthen yourself affinity and make the other person feel happy.
14. Use appropriate ways to express admiration or liking
If you have a good impression or admiration for the other person, express it in appropriate ways, but do not be overly showy or enthusiastic. Awkwardness and embarrassment can be avoided.
15. Make friendly exchanges
In social situations, be friendly and enthusiastic rather than cold and ruthless. This can enhance mutual connections and establish good social relations. relation.
16. Avoid excessive questioning and in-depth communication
During the communication process, you must learn to stop questioning appropriately and communicate in depth, and do not be too enthusiastic or curious. If the other person is unwilling to talk about certain topics, respect the other person's choices and opinions.
17. Show sincerity and frankness
In the process of interacting with the opposite sex, you should show sincerity and frankness, and do not hide your true thoughts and feelings. This can enhance each other's feelings. Level of trust and understanding.
18. Pay attention to the time and environment of communication
During the communication process, you must pay attention to the choice of time and environment, do not disturb the other party’s work or rest, and also adjust the time and environment accordingly. Choose different conversation methods and methods according to the environment and occasion.
19. Give support and encouragement to the other party
In the process of communication, you should give appropriate encouragement and support to the other party, so that the other party feels that you are a trustworthy person, so that you can Enhance your status and authority in the other person's heart.
20. Avoid showing off your achievements and advantages
Although moderate praise and praise are okay, you should avoid showing off your achievements and advantages, which will make the other party feel that you Very conceited and arrogant, which affects the quality and effect of communication.
21. Pay attention to the other person’s opinions and suggestions
In the process of interacting with the opposite sex, you should pay attention to the other person’s opinions and suggestions, and do not despise or reject his/her ideas. This enhances each other'sUnderstanding, trust and mutually beneficial relationships.
Twenty-two. Cultivate your own patience and patience
In the process of communicating with others, you need to be patient and patient. Don’t be eager for success and results. This can enhance your ability. Communication skills and endurance, increase social experience.
23. Use praise and praise appropriately
In the process of communicating with the opposite sex, using praise and compliments appropriately can make the other party feel happy and motivated, but do not use it excessively or falsely Praise.
Twenty-four. Provide interesting topics and content
In the process of communication, it is necessary to provide interesting and valuable topics and content, so as to attract the other party's attention, and Increase the ease of communication.
25. Avoid using ambiguous or vague language
During the communication process, avoid using vague or ambiguous language, which may make the other party feel uncomfortable. Confirm or distrust. Express your views and opinions in simple, clear and conclusive language.
26. Show your true character and style
In the process of communication, you must show your true character and style, and do not cover up or disguise yourself. This can Better attract the other party's attention and recognition.
27. Avoid using negative and pessimistic words
During the communication process, avoid using negative and pessimistic words, which will make the other party feel unhappy and frustrated and affect the effectiveness of the communication. Effect and quality.
28. Pay attention to your own language and cultural qualities
In the process of communicating with the opposite sex, you must pay attention to your own language and cultural qualities, learn and master more cultural knowledge, Avoid cultural misunderstandings and communication barriers.
29. Pay attention to the other party’s psychological needs and emotional feelings
In the process of communication, pay attention to the other party’s psychological needs and emotional feelings, and do not ignore the other party’s feelings and experiences. Show empathy and empathy.
30. Pay attention to the other person’s personality and characteristics
During the conversation, you should pay attention to the other person’s personality and characteristics. Don’t regard the other person as an ordinary person. Pay attention to and Respect each other's emotional and psychological needs.
31. Maintain a good environment and occasion
When communicating and communicating, it is necessary to maintain a good environment and occasion, avoid interference and disturbing factors, so as to carry out better Communicate and interact.
32. Use emoticons and symbols appropriately
In Internet communication, non-verbal communication methods such as emoticons and symbols can be used appropriately to increase the flexibility and effectiveness of communication.
33. Active communication and exchange
Finally, you must actively communicate and communicate, open your heart, express your thoughts and feelings as much as possible, and establish a sincere and sincere relationship with the other party. Deep relationships.
Conclusion
The above are 35 speaking skills to improve your emotional intelligence and communication skills with the opposite sex, and improve your emotional intelligence. I hope it will be helpful to readers and make you more comfortable and comfortable in social situations.
