The so-called topic terminators refer to those who can chat to death no matter what the topic is, and the other party can't take any more words. Or people who always talk about things the other person doesn't want to talk about.
Many boys play the role of topic terminator when chatting with girls, such as:
1. Chat to check household registration
Continue to ask questions and chat with others An aggressive feeling that neither exchanges information nor arouses the girl's emotions.
2. Overemotional
Chatting beyond your existing relationship. For example, before meeting a girl, use honey. Baby and other intimate names to call each other, but the other person is not very interested in you.
3. Random evaluation
Influenced by traditional values, some boys are chauvinistic in love and often make the mistake of making random evaluations of girls. For example, casually teasing girls about their height, weight, appearance, etc. will leave the impression that girls have low emotional intelligence and disrespect for each other.
4. There are few responses to topics
Some boys always like to use um when chatting. Oh or an emoticon to respond rather than expand. He doesn't expand the topic and can't give the girl anything to reply to, which leads to the girl's interest in chatting with him being exhausted.
5. The topic always revolves around yourself or girls
Chatting is an art and requires balancing the weight of the two people in the chat topic. If you show too much during chatting, girls will feel that you are too selfish; if you talk to girls too much during chatting, girls will feel that you have a strong sense of need.
So how can you avoid becoming a topic terminator when chatting with girls?
1. Accumulate chat topics and enrich conversation materials
In daily chat life, we should be Chat to accumulate topics, such as exploring topics from books, TV, movies, variety shows, experiences, etc. When we encounter something, we can record our feelings at that time and collect humorous jokes, humorous text messages, funny embarrassing things, etc. These can all be used as topics for your chat.
Of course, you can also prepare this topic in advance so that you can use it when chatting, such as travel, TV, movies, food, variety shows, Korean dramas, clothing, cosmetics, pets, horoscopes, childhood, etc.
2. Learn to expand topics
(1) Grab keyword associations.
Grabbing keywords is the easiest way to get rid of topic terminators. The method is to grab key words in the conversation and then imagine, expand and expand.
For example, the girl said to you: I plan to go to Hainan for vacation with my best friend tomorrow. The key word is - me. tomorrow. My best friend. oceanSouth. On vacation, grab one of these to expand.
I plan to stay at home tomorrow - keyword me
The weather forecast says it will rain tomorrow - keyword tomorrow
You and your bestie The relationship should be very strong - keyword best friend
Hainan is one of the most beautiful cities I have ever been to - keyword Hainan
You plan to go to Hainan for a few days of vacation - —Keyword vacation
(2) Express emotional feelings.
Women are very emotional animals. They are very concerned about their emotions and feelings when chatting. We can observe how girls want to express their feelings through chatting, or express their feelings from girls’ replies. This kind of chat can give a girl a feeling of knowing her very well.
3. Don’t be afraid of silence
If two people talk too much, there will inevitably be no topic. Don’t be nervous about not having a topic. If you forcefully find a topic to talk about, it can easily become the topic terminator. It's best to accept the fact that the conversation will be cold, and stay confident, relaxed, casual, and calm, and the other person will naturally feel relaxed and get along with you.
(1) You can temporarily cut off the chat and leave expectations for girls in a high-value way. The topics may continue to flow when you chat again.
(2) When there is no topic to chat, use your spare time to actively enrich your interests and hobbies, and accumulate conversation materials to prepare for future chats.
(3) Fully explore girls’ interests and hobbies, and establish emotional resonance in your own favorite way.
