The first step to chase a girl is to chat. Only by having a good chat can you make an appointment and let both parties have a story to follow. So what details should you pay attention to when chatting with a girl?
1. Not all times are suitable for chatting
Understand the work and life patterns of the girl you like, and you can avoid many things that make her unhappy. point.
This is a detail that many brothers tend to overlook. Especially some boys who don’t pay attention to the girl’s reaction state often think that girls are so strange. Sometimes she seems to be very positive in replying to me, and sometimes she seems to be indifferent. Very unhappy with me.
This problem most likely lies in the time when you approached her, rather than a problem in your relationship.
For example, I just chatted with a girl I liked, and I had to chat for a while every morning. For three consecutive days, the girl looked full of energy. But I don’t know what happened today. She replied very late, and her tone seemed a little impatient?
Someone is about to make wild guesses at this time... "Does she not want to chat with me anymore?" ?" "She doesn't have a boyfriend, does she? Is this the rhythm of "working hard" all night?"
Stop thinking about it and ask her if she is on vacation today.
This is a very common misunderstanding. When many people think about problems, they subconsciously look at them from their own experience and perspective. For example, if you always take weekends off, you ignore that some people are busier when you are on holiday, and they are free when you are busy. I finally took a vacation and slept in at home, but I was disturbed by you. It’s strange that I was in a good mood!
Another common mistake is chatting with girls at noon. Many people habitually pick up girls during their lunch break, but end up being upset.
In fact, the response rate at noon is far lower than that in the afternoon. If the girl is an office worker like you, she may have to take a lunch break at noon, or chat with colleagues, and will not come here specifically to play with her mobile phone. If the girl is in the service industry, and there are so many customers at noon, it is the busiest time of the day, and she has no time to reply to you.
But it’s different in the afternoon. Everyone is either very free in the afternoon or needs to relax after being tired. So I basically have time to look at my phone. Chat with a girl after about 3 or 4 o'clock, and she can even reply to you instantly.
Let’s talk about late night, that is, the period from 0 to 2 o’clock. In fact, this is the best time for us to chat with girls. This is the time when people's emotions are most likely to explode, when they are the most sensitive and emotional. At this time, many people will magnify their need for another person who has a good impression. If you chat with girls at this time, you can easily establish an intimate relationship.
So you understand how important it is to choose the right time to chat with a girl. Therefore, in addition to your own convenience, you also have to understand the girl's schedule so that you can be more accurate.Catch her at her best. But don't pick a time when she doesn't have time to pay attention to you, causing the girl to worry about whether to reply to you or not, and you also have random thoughts because she didn't reply for a long time.
2. Pay attention to your facial expressions
This is also a detail that is easily overlooked. Most people don't pay attention to their expressions when talking to others.
However, girls can read your general mental state at the moment from your face, and judge whether you are serious, nervous, vulgar, trying to trick her, etc.
For example, when someone is chatting with a girl, his eyes are unfocused, as if he has no focus. The girl can tell at a glance that he is thinking about a problem.
Why are you thinking about the question? This means that he doesn’t know what to say, so his brain is working at a rapid speed, nervously analyzing how to answer her, or what topic to find.
Girls are often extremely disappointed with a boy because of his missteps, thinking that he is an incompetent man who does not have the value and grace she wants.
However, if you show the same state in different manners, your image in the eyes of girls is completely different.
For example, if a girl you like asks you a question that is difficult to answer, you first stare at her seriously, lock your eyes on her face, and then think about the question with a faint smile. In this way, your reaction will no longer be blank in the eyes of girls, but profound! Your temporary speechlessness is not because you don't know how to answer this question, but because you are organizing the most suitable language to answer this question.
3. Maintain a good dynamic balance
Some people chat with the girls they like and only talk about themselves What you want to say or keep absorbing information from girls without giving girls a chance to speak is a sign of imbalance.
Girls generally have only one reaction to this unbalanced chatting method: it’s annoying.
Some people know that girls don’t pay much attention to him, but he also acts like the two of them have a good relationship and frequently chats with girls. This is also a sign of imbalance.
Regarding this imbalance, the editor once asked a girl: There is a boy who flirts with you no matter how coldly you treat him, what do you think of him? The girl said: This kind of person is very pitiful.
When we deal with girls, maintaining a good balance is one of the most important details. If a boy shows too much desire for a girl, or ignores her feelings, or devotes too much to the girl, etc., the position of the two people getting along will become one above the other, and they will not be able to talk on an equal footing. This kind of relationship is impossible to move forward. developed before.
