Chatting is an interactive process. If you always take the initiative when chatting with girls, it will only make you feel tired, and your relationship will not make any substantial progress. So how do you get girls to take the initiative to send you messages?
1. Thinking has to jump
We all You know, when chatting with girls, you should avoid asking girls a series of questions, but on the other hand, it is also very important to respond to whatever girls ask! Because there is no topic extension or expansion in this way, and there is no way to talk to girls. interactive.
Whether you are asking a girl or a girl is asking you, as long as it is a question-and-answer chat, have you ever felt that this way of chatting does not look like chatting, but more like a reporter doing an interview? ?So if a girl asks you a question, you must not answer her one by one step by step. Instead, you must use your out-of-the-box thinking to think of more interesting topics from her questions, and then ask her back, or change the topic to something else. Among the new topics unearthed in her words.
For example - Girl: "Who are you spending Chinese Valentine's Day with today?" Boy: "Emmm, who do you want me to spend it with?" Girl: "Haha, this is your business, who am I? I know." Boy: "This is a state secret! If you can tell me who you have been with first, I don't mind revealing it."
Men must not be too limited in their thinking and expression when flirting with girls. Be rigid, be a little more jumpy in your thinking, a little richer in associations, and a little wider in the scope of the topic. As long as you don't jump to the point where it makes no sense, your words can greatly arouse the interest of girls. Without a rich imagination, it will be difficult for you to inspire girls' thinking.
For example, if we can’t continue talking about the current topic, we need to change the topic at this time. However, if you abruptly switch to other topics, there will be no connection between the previous topic and your new topic. , the girl may not be able to react, and can’t figure out why the conversation suddenly ended here, and then looked confused. In this case, the conversation will definitely break down. The topic change should be natural so that girls can keep up. You need to use your rich imagination and jumping thinking to explore the content you have talked about before and find topics that can be extended and traced back. Girls can only use these new topics Come to think of it, what are you talking about?
2. Provide reasons for girls
Why are some people often criticized for chatting with a girl they just met? If a girl treats you coldly, even if you are passionate, the girl may touch your hot face with her cold butt. Many people still don't understand the reason for this. This matter is fundamentally a matter of identity. At this moment, you have a big question for girls: "What is our relationship?" The answer is naturally: strangers.
Then you complain about girlsTo a girl who has a cold attitude towards you: Why should I be enthusiastic about you? Are there any benefits to being enthusiastic about you? What will you do to me if I ignore you? Why should she be enthusiastic? Just because it can show Her politeness is not enough reason for a girl to be enthusiastic about a strange boy.
What’s the benefit of being passionate about you? Congratulations, you have a new friend, who may also be your future boyfriend. Is this a benefit? It doesn’t count, unless it’s a girl who takes the initiative to flirt with you. , otherwise this kind of benefit is not in her psychological expectation. If not, it doesn't matter. If it is, she still has to consider whether it is worth having a friend like you. What will happen if she ignores you? You can't do anything to her.
In short, girls feel that they have no reason to chat happily with you right away, especially when your opening method is boring and boring. If so, she will be too lazy to care about you. Therefore, we need to provide girls with reasons, such as what is your name, why do you want to chat with her, why are you so enthusiastic about her, and letting girls know the reasons can untie the identity definition of "just met, not familiar" and put it in her heart. firewall so that she can chat with you with normal heat. If you add some emotional value to her, it is not impossible to get the girl to respond to you with 12 points of enthusiasm.
For example - "Young lady is really nice. I saw the short video you posted. She plays the piano really well! It has a very mini sound." (You play the piano because you like her. It’s good to add her, not for no reason, nor for any aggressive reason like this, so the girl won’t be wary of you, and will naturally be enthusiastic about you) “Hahaha, actually I’m still a newbie. I haven’t studied for a few days, so I’m a bit embarrassed.”
“That’s really talented. I think I’m on par with my classmates who have been studying music professionally since high school.” (A reasonable compliment. A girl will not think that you are deliberately trying to please her. When you meet such an admirer, a girl has no reason to refuse to have a pleasant chat with you. )
