If you confess your love to a girl and then the girl says to be friends, I think many boys will feel very disappointed, and then feel discouraged and ready to give up. In fact, when a girl says she wants to be friends, it may not be a rejection, but a test for you. Let’s analyze the psychology of a girl saying she wants to be friends after she confesses her love. After understanding this, you will know what to do.
Do girls say that being friends is a test?
Actually, girls have three kinds of psychology when it comes to being friends:
The first type is when girls really refuse. You
Sometimes girls just treat you as a friend, so chatting with you will be very pleasant, but you will make the mistake of confessing your intention to a girl, but as for a girl, she doesn’t She has the nerve to reject you directly, because she will take your face into consideration, so she will tell you that we should just be friends. At this time, you will find that the girl’s tone is very decisive. In fact, the girl’s thoughts are also very simple. I didn't like this boy, but I didn't want to hurt him, so I chose a tactful way to tell him that we were not suitable as a couple.
So if this is the case, brothers, don’t feel embarrassed. It means that you have not attracted a girl yet, so you can improve yourself more in the subsequent interactions with her, so that She sees a different you, maybe, if you confess your love to her at this time, she will agree.
The second type is that girls are actually testing you
Girls usually face feelings, She is more reserved and cautious. If you confess your love to a girl not long after you met, and the girl tells you that you should be friends first, then maybe the girl just wants to test your patience and sincerity and look at you. Did you give up because of her words? Or is it because the girl is being reserved and wants to see your sincerity?
Some brothers may want to ask, then how should I judge? It's very simple. If you send a message to a girl after she says this, she will still respond positively, ask her out, and she will still come out. During the chat, she will not reject you, even. You are still a bit shy about refusing to welcome, so congratulations, the girl actually has a crush on you, and your relationship has endless possibilities.
It’s easier to handle at this time. She is like this because she is reserved. When dealing with a reserved girl, just maintain the current relationship, don’t put too much pressure on her, and don’t be too eager to marry her again. Confess, just continue to show your high value on the basis of creating a sense of comfort.
The third type is that girls use you as a spare tire
Maybe youWhen we get along with each other, a girl always treats you as a backup. After you confess your love to her, she will still hang on to you in the name of a friend. How to judge? In fact, it is very simple. For example, she will not deliberately alienate you, and will even take the initiative to contact you to make you think that there is still hope for you. But as long as you show that you want her to develop further, this At that time, she will use the phrase "we are good friends" to prevaricate you again.
This is very obvious. Girls are using you as a backup. Brothers, you should remember that girls don’t do this yet. Before she officially becomes your girlfriend, don't provide her with any girlfriend treatment, otherwise, she will easily become a girl's backup.
Therefore, after confirming the girl’s thoughts about being friends after confessing her love, the brothers can prepare for the next action. If the girl really rejects you, then get along with the girl as friends first. Maybe one day the girl will be attracted to you again and you will have another chance. If girls are testing you, then we must also be able to withstand the test of girls. After getting along for a while, we will be together naturally. If a girl wants to use you as a backup, I suggest you turn around and leave as soon as possible. After all, it doesn't make sense no matter how much you pay for such a girl.
