Many boys are very unconfident in the process of chasing girls, and even have excessive low self-esteem. As a result, you are unable to show your best self in front of girls, and you give up as soon as you encounter some obstacles. Even if a girl has feelings for you, it is impossible for her to fall in love so quickly, right?
1. It takes time
Girls are relatively slow to warm up, and the risks they have to bear in love are also relatively large, so facing you Instead, she will escape from pursuit, and she needs more time to determine their relationship.
1) Shy. A girl will become nervous and shy when facing someone she likes. In order to avoid exposing her inner secrets, she will cope by escaping.
2)
Uncertainty. Some boys are very cowardly. He will confess his feelings to girls on WeChat, phone calls, text messages, or even use alcohol to embolden him to confess to girls after drinking. If you confess like this, girls will think you are insincere and wonder if you are joking with her, so you should Your confession will escape.
3) Lure. A girl's escape is to seduce your pursuit, she doesn't want you to get her too early, and she wants you to cherish her more.
2. Treat you as a spare tire
Girls keep a spare tire. To a certain extent, is a natural strategy for evolutionary psychology.
However, there are two kinds of psychology when it comes to raising a spare tire:
1) She will accept all the gifts you give her, she will go to you every time you treat her to dinner, and she will talk to you when she is sad. , companionship, etc., but I'm sorry, we are just friends.
2) Your current performance can only be said to be passing, but not outstanding. You still have opportunities, but you need to work hard to improve yourself.
One kind of spare tire is an ATM with no chance, and the other kind of spare tire is a substitute player. When a girl talks to you about being friends, you need to figure out what she means by "friends."
In fact, being a spare tire also requires utilization of value. Since you can be a girl’s spare tire, it at least shows that you have advantages that the girl appreciates. After all, some people want to be a spare tire but can’t. .
3. Good person card
Script:
Sorry, you are a good person . (Confession)
I didn’t have a choice before, but now I just want to be a good person. (After marriage)
When some girls reject a boy's confession, they are afraid that direct rejection will hurt the boy's self-esteem, so they can only reject the boy's confession tactfully, such as using the good guy card to refuse the confession.
The common words they use to reject boys are: "Let's just be friends", "You are very good and we are not suitable", "I thinkYou should find someone better, "How did you fall in love with me", etc., and then slowly distance yourself from you.
If you are confident that you can catch up, you can continue to try. If you are both If you don’t have confidence, then choose another goal.