I didn’t have a choice before. Give me a chance. I don’t want to be a spare tire anymore. In a relationship, no matter who you are as the backup, it hurts the most. The other person doesn't want to hold your hand, and he doesn't want to let you go. You have become dispensable in her heart. So what is the chance that the spare tire will be turned into a regular one?
The path of the spare tire is your own choice, that is to say, In your subconscious mind, you think that you lack competitiveness in relationships and dare not pursue your own happiness.
At the beginning of this relationship, you set limits for yourself. You thought that you were not worthy of the girl, so you chose to be a spare tire and silently accompany the girl instead of Be brave and step forward to poach someone.
The spare tire is usually relatively humble in front of girls, and the man that girls need is not a humble man, but a man who can stand upright, be responsible, courageous, and capable.
The relationship between spare tires and girls is determined by the way that spare tires are passive and girls are active. This time Ambiguous relationships are always dominated by girls. When the day comes when girls don't need you anymore, your status as a spare tire will naturally end. Even if the spare tire becomes a regular partner, it is also a spare tire. There is nothing you can do about the girl changing her spare tire.
Therefore, you must not be a backup when chasing girls. The potential idea of ??being a backup is to give all the control of the love relationship to the other party. Your ability to develop and control the development of your relationship is close to zero.
In other words, whether the backup can be turned into a regular employee does not depend on you, but on what girls think. If you are outstanding enough in the eyes of girls, then your status is definitely not the backup.
It can be seen from this:
1) You lack the ability to dominate in emotional relationships
< p> 2) You lack attraction in the eyes of girls3) Whether you can maintain an ambiguous relationship with a girl depends entirely on the girl’s decision
In such a relationship, do you think the spare tire can What are the chances of becoming a regular employee? There are countless fantasies, it is better to take action. Instead of waiting for love as a backup, it is better to be yourself and pursue love. A relationship that you can control is called love. The relationship that is controlled by others is just charity from the other person.
