What really defeats a marriage is not the mistress or poverty, but the inconspicuous details, the day after day of indifference, and the long-term indifference and disappointment to each other.
Similarly, I also found that many people have a deep misunderstanding in marriage:
They believe that "most of the reasons why a marriage cannot go on are because they don't love each other." But the fact is - marriage does not rely on love to generate electricity, but more on each other's "ability to love someone."
Let's not shy away from saying that my country's divorce in 2019. There are 4.154 million couples, and the top reason for divorce is "trivial family matters."
In people's conventional thinking, "getting married" can be regarded as the top priority in life, but when it comes to living a real life, But I found that it was all trivial and trivial.
"Why are you throwing socks around again? Don't you know how hard I work every day?"
"Why are you throwing garbage in the trash can without a bag? Is there still this home here?"
"Why did you come back by special car today? Don't you know how hard it is for me to make money?"
When you really get married, Naturally, you will find that the decision to divorce you is not at all a big storm, but the following three points:
1. Trivial matters
2. The same contradictions continue to accumulate, and disappointments Multiply
3. Disappointment affects emotions, and emotions affect communication. Without communication, there will be nothing in a marriage
< p> People in marriage will gradually find that "disappointment can be repaired once, but disappointment a hundred times, no matter how strong the patience and full love, it will not help in the end."Big The decision to get a partial divorce is not a moment of despair at all, but a long-planned decision based on the accumulation of disappointment day after day.
Partners in marriage simply cannot learn or even realize “how important the ability to love someone is.”
But why do some people get married? After that, you fell in love more and more?
It's because these people know how to solve problems in marriage, but you keep complaining about "why problems occur."
People who love themselves with their partners, and there will be no problems in their marriage, are often the ones who are most likely to be killed by marriage.
For example, if you like a company very much and the company appreciates your talents, then as long as you work in the company If you don’t do anything here, can you just sit back and enjoy the results?
Obviously not the case.
In marriage, you will definitely encounter problems, big and small, that you need to face and solve. These problems will make you feel the pain points of your marriage, but in fact, marriage is not that bad. Most people are going through the same things as you. matter.
This is the normal state of marriage and life.
