Most boys will always spend a lot of time, money and energy to please girls when they are chasing girls, but in fact this is useless. Although it is necessary to chase a girl and please her, we also have to achieve a balance in this kind of pleasing, so what should we do specifically?
1. Guide her to pay for emotional value
Everyone should be able to understand emotional value, which is the most economical value but the easiest to see the effect. Output, what kind of healing, guidance, sharing, companionship, curiosity, etc., the specific how to do it is divided into two aspects.
1) Showing weakness
Showing weakness is not limited to big troubles, but trivial matters in daily life. It is best to show weakness in a way that can be ridiculed.
For example, "I wore slippers to pick up the express delivery today. As soon as I came downstairs, I accidentally wore the slippers up to my ankles." "I feel ridiculed, please comfort me."
When you say this, although the girl can't help but laugh, you will be surprised to find that no matter what, she will be very happy to help you deal with this kind of emotional problem - in other words, you have successfully guided her emotional investment.
2) Ask for help
A good relationship comes from trouble, but asking a girl for help will trouble her You also have to be moderate, at least pick something easy and not expensive.
You can ask her to help you match a set of casual clothes, or ask her about interesting attractions around the city, or ask her to recommend to you the food she often eats.
In this way, she will unknowingly care about your affairs and be willing to devote her time and thoughts.
2. Guide her to pay in terms of material value
If you want a girl to give willingly, you must let her She finds participation in your interactions rather than watching you act alone.
Because a full sense of participation can increase her sunk costs and make her have to cherish the interaction with you.
We can achieve our own small goals through intentional or unintentional hints or straightforward requests.
For example: You first gave her a hand warmer, and then mentioned intentionally or unintentionally: "I want to buy a scarf recently, but I don't know what to choose."
Or give her a Valentine's Day gift, and then joke, "I'm waiting for the chocolates for White Day."
In this way, under your subtle guidance, she will Will be willing to pay, such as "I'll treat you to dinner next time. I found this restaurant after asking many friends."
At this time youWhat she has to do is to go along with the flow and show a strong sense of recognition for her efforts. This is also the positive feedback that continuously strengthens her efforts. Then she will pay more and more attention to your relationship in the future.
