After being with your girlfriend, if you accidentally learned about her past, would you not care? Would you say that you don't care on the surface, because after all, you can't get involved in her past, but secretly you actually do care? Let’s analyze it for everyone: Do you care about your girlfriend’s past? Should you care about her past if you love her?
1. It’s your problem to care about your girlfriend’s past
Each of us has a past, and this is a fact that no one can change. But if you are critical of your girlfriend's past, you should realize that this is your problem, not your girlfriend's. After all, your girlfriend can't change the past for you. You either have to accept your girlfriend's past and work together. Either decide to end it, in which case you owe her the decision to end the relationship, not to delay it. In this case, she can find a boy who is more suitable for her, a boy who doesn't care so much about this matter.
Accept that your girlfriend’s past is a problem that no one can solve for you, except you. You are the only one who can save yourself, you just need some time, some deep soul torture, some self-reflection and self-exploration to see if you really can't accept it.
2. Stop talking to your girlfriend about her past
Some boys may do it under the guise of more You ask your girlfriend about her past under the guise of getting to know her, but if your girlfriend tells you honestly, you will feel uncomfortable and find it a bit unacceptable. Therefore, in order to avoid asking for trouble, it is recommended that everyone stop talking to your girlfriend about her past, and do not collect information about her past on social networks and through various channels. Collecting this information will not do any good, it will only Leading you into an endless loop that always requires more information.
As long as your girlfriend is devoted to you and you are living a happy life, there is no need to settle old scores. If you feel that your girlfriend is not suitable for you, you owe it to yourself and your girlfriend to make a decision - to end the relationship as soon as possible and get out.
3. Everyone makes mistakes
We all make mistakes as we grow, and we continue to make mistakes as we grow. To grow and make decisions that are best for us in the moment. So before your girlfriend met you, she might have made mistakes in relationships: maybe she had a relationship with someone she shouldn't have a relationship with, maybe she rejected someone who really loved her, maybe she let herself down... In this process, she continued to experiment, learn, and grow.
But your girlfriend has also grown up in this series of experiences. She understands what is like and what is not; what is cherished and what is not. Later she met you and started a relationship with you. Happy love affair. So for her, this processIt may be tragic, but the ending may be happy, and as her boyfriend, you should not criticize her harshly. After all, there is no need for you to meet her at the beginning and give her a beautiful future.
