Perhaps many couples feel very sweet in the love stage and think they can get married. However, they never thought that marriage and love are not exactly the same thing. It is not that love alone can lead to a happy marriage. This is a truth that many people only understand after they get married. Does anyone know what are the signs that two people are not suitable for marriage? You can avoid getting into the wrong marriage in the first place.
1. Is there long-term comfort?
Some people may think that the comfort of falling in love and marriage is not quarreling, because if you quarrel, you will be unhappy, which will of course affect the comfort. . This is certainly the case. However, quarrels also add reality to your lives. Because when two people quarrel, the needs of both parties are exposed. When there is a person in your life who will accommodate you in everything, tolerate you, and forgive you unconditionally even if you make mistakes... Do you think this is possible? Of course it's impossible, even a licking dog can't do this. Although such a person makes you very comfortable, it lacks authenticity because you cannot see where his or her needs are. The Tathagata all has the need to save all sentient beings, how can he not? The reason why he or she has not been exposed is that either he or she has a lot to ask for, or he or she has no intention of getting on the boat in the first place.
What we say about marriage requires long-term comfort is that after you are with this person, you feel that life is very easy, there is no threshold that you cannot pass, and there is nothing that you find intolerable. You can consider getting married.
2. Behavior after a conflict of interest
Some men and women often have conflicts before their interests arise. They can coexist harmoniously because there is no conflict of interest with each other, so some conflicts are covered up. It was only after you got married that a conflict of interest arose, and the other person completely ignored your interests. Only then did you realize how selfish the other person was, and you felt that you had chosen the wrong person to get married to.
Therefore, it is recommended that before marriage, men and women take advantage of the fact that their hormones have gradually calmed down. They might as well find something to do together to see how the other party reacts when there is a conflict of interest. Simple ones include travel, decoration, and stress. When you respond, you can honestly express your various future plans, including your future marriage needs, career needs, etc. This is a stage of seeking common ground while reserving differences. The more honest everyone is, the easier it is to find a direction (but finding a direction does not necessarily mean marriage, it may also mean a breakup). At this stage, you must also understand that liking may not be the most important thing. The other person may like you, but the other person may not want to live together according to the lifestyle you envision, which may coexist.
If a man and a woman break up because of their different lifestyle plans, in fact, it doesn’t matter if they get divorced early. This is a matter of personal outlook. Wouldn’t it be better to find out early and get out of the trap early?
3. Contribution and investment
Women have a point of view that depends on whether a man loves you or not. See if he isWhether he is willing to spend money on you or not is actually not entirely correct. The contribution and investment we are talking about here are not about letting him spend money for you, but how much he has paid for your relationship and whether it is long-term. That's why there is a saying: A rich person depends on how much time he spends on you, and a poor person depends on how much money he spends on you. Why do you say that? Because he is willing to take out his precious things and maintain this relationship. What's this? This is sincerity. So relying solely on whether the other party is willing to spend money for you is too one-sided.
Another important point that shows that two people are not suitable for marriage is the attitude of both parents. Although many people think that they are themselves when they get married. matter, but the attitude of parents is undoubtedly an important part of the marriage between a man and a woman. If one parent does not agree, then one party will be caught between the parents and the partner and bear tremendous pressure, which will also have a negative impact on the marriage life. A great influence.
