Marriage is the final form of a relationship, but entering into marriage does not mean that the relationship will be stable and there will be no problems. On the contrary, there will only be more problems in marriage than in love. few.
Therefore, if you don’t want your marriage to become the tomb of love and want to maintain a happy marriage, many of the ways of getting along in love must be adjusted according to the current situation.
However, many people’s way of getting along has not been adjusted because of marriage, and they still demand each other in a romantic way, which makes this marriage prone to problems, such as:
< p style="text-align: center;">1. Men are busy at work, and women are eager to accompany them
In relationships, men and women think differently. After marriage, , what men care more about is the improvement of living standards. They feel that if you love someone and want to manage your love well, you need a high level of quality of life.
So a man’s energy will shift. Gradually transfer from the other party to work, and work hard to achieve the level you want.
But women pay more attention to emotional feelings. They feel that a good marriage means loving each other and accompanying each other, so women care more about men just like they do. to meet your own needs.
When the two kinds of thinking collide, you will find that your wife does not understand you and feels that she is always making troubles unreasonably, and your wife will also feel that you do not love her enough. You have changed and you don’t want to be like before. He doted on her all the same, so that there were more and more conflicts and quarrels between the two.
2. Men like to be reasonable, but women want attitude
When there are problems in the relationship between two people, When the quarrels begin to increase, what a man likes most is to reason and present the facts, and feel that what he has done is not wrong. The reason why the other party continues to quarrel with you is because he is unreasonable. You will constantly point out the other person's mistakes and want to prove that you are right.
But when she doesn’t take it seriously, the most common solution for a man is to escape. He doesn’t want to continue arguing with the other person, thinking that time will allow the other person to calm down.
When a woman has a quarrel, she clearly knows that she is making trouble unreasonably and that it is her own fault. But he won't admit his mistakes easily.
She thinks that as a man, you should continue to pamper her. She wants you to be more tolerant and tolerant. She wants you to take the initiative to admit your mistakes and give her a step down. But when you are cold-warming When you do this, she will feel that you are avoiding the problem, that you don't care about her, and you don't love her anymore.
Based on the different ways of solving problems, the conflict between the two people not only cannot be resolved, but also causes negative emotions to continue to accumulate deep in each other's hearts, and gradually you will begin toIf you don't like the other person and feel that whatever the other person does is aimed at you, your married life becomes a battlefield for your battle of wits and courage.
3. Shifting responsibilities to each other, quarrels turn into divorce
The most serious stage of marital problems is when quarrels lead to divorce. When it turns into a divorce, you start arguing and making trouble every day, taking great pains to convince the other party, to prove that you didn't do anything, and to make the other party bear the responsibility for the mistake.
But if your relationship never improves. When your expectations are not met, the quarrels between you will turn into abuse and accusations, and gradually turn into "if you can't get along, get divorced."
When people are emotionally out of control, they cannot stay rational and will only try to express their feelings for a while, so it is easy for you to reply to the other person, "Just leave!"
Although this will make you feel relieved and feel that this is just an angry talk and the other party will understand you, but you ignore it. She has begun to doubt your relationship, and she wants to protect you at the moment. You only have yourself, which has led to your marriage developing to the point where you have to divorce.
In fact, the root cause of a broken marriage is the inability of both parties to control their emotions, not knowing the correct way to get along, and the accumulation of small problems. Therefore, if you want to maintain a happy marriage, you must You must learn to control your emotions and get along with each other in the correct way.
