A relationship is always sweet at the beginning, but if it is not maintained, the relationship will gradually fade away as time goes by, causing the two people to drift apart. How can it last long?
Below, I will teach you a few tips on maintaining a long-term relationship without breaking up.
The first key point of maintaining an object is self-improvement.
A man’s value can mainly be determined by the following 6 factors:
1) Appearance
2) Material or property
3) Status or reputation
4) Knowledge or learning
5) Social grace or character
6) Character
No matter where you are here What is it like in this aspect? As long as there is a tendency and willingness to improve yourself, you will find that the relationship between the two of you will become more and more harmonious, and she will love you more and more.
Girls all like boys who are motivated and want their significant other to become better.
You can live on 5,000 yuan a month now, but after you fall in love, you may need 10,000 yuan a month to live.
Because material improvement can give a woman the confidence to rely on you and allow her to stay with you safely.
The second key point is called guided investment.
Many men have a gambler mentality. In fact, women also have this concept when it comes to relationships. They will be particularly reluctant to part with things they have invested in.
The so-called guided investment is to let girls continue to pay for you, because people will not give up easily on the feelings they have invested in.
A woman has invested a lot of time, a lot of energy, a lot of money, and even the most important things in you, so she is not willing to lose you casually. This is called increasing the cost of breaking up.
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The third important point is to understand the differences in thinking between men and women.
Boys think more focused, while girls think more divergently.
The topics of chat among girls are often very jumpy. Just now, they were still chatting in anger, and suddenly they started talking about gossip about the king’s wife. Don’t be surprised, most men and women are not thinking in the same channel, for example:
Girl A: I bought a skirt in Sanlitun and I really like it.
Girl B: I bought a sweater in Xidan and I really like it.
Girl A: MeI bought a skirt in Sanlitun and I really like it.
Boyfriend: How much.
Girls care about the content of the chat, while boys care more about the results.
So when your girlfriend talks to you about unhappy things or complains about something, you just need to follow her wishes and show that you care about her.
She just needs your approval and distress, and does not need a solution or suggestion. Do not try to reason with them or analyze rationally.
This will make you appear cold-blooded and indifferent to them. This is also the main reason why many couples quarrel:
Girls feel that boys are unwilling to listen and do not care about loving themselves, while boys feel that girls do not listen to their advice and are unreasonable.
For example:
The girl said: I have to work overtime again today. If this continues, I will go crazy. What should I do?
The wrong boy’s reply is: At this time, you should take the initiative to say no to your boss. Only by knowing how to say no can you win recognition, etc. (This kind of preaching will not arouse any good feelings from girls)
The correct reply from a boy: Who is this ignorant person who is making things difficult for my little cutie!? (The best way to relieve the girl’s emotions and release her pressure is Correct approach)
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The fourth key point is to form correct habits of getting along.
Two people will have different ways of getting along with each other, and the same way of getting along will form a habit of getting along.
Some boys think that their girlfriends must pamper them. No matter what kind of request a girl makes, they dare not refuse even if they know it is very unreasonable.
This leads to the gradual escalation of unreasonable demands to the point where boys cannot bear it.
In fact, there is a "simplest choice" in getting along:
When we face many choices, it is like walking through a maze. If we find that this road does not work, we will I'll find another way until I get through.
Once a certain road is clear, we will always choose this road and give up choosing other roads.
In the same way, when a girl makes an unreasonable request, you choose to compromise because you are afraid of quarreling and fearing that she will be unhappy.
From then on, she will feel that making trouble is the easiest choice to solve the problem, so no matter what the request is in the future, if you don't agree, he will use this method to achieve his goal.
When we get along, we must be wary of the formation of the simplest choices. Even a proper quarrel is better than forming a vicious cycle of bad habits.
Of course, a proper quarrel requires a good control of the situation. Please remember that the purpose of the quarrel is not to suppress, but to reach a consensus.
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The fifth key point is to create surprises appropriately.
Learn to create a sense of surprise in a long-term relationship.
Don’t pay too much attention to giving materially, but pay more attention to giving spiritual surprises.
Let the girl realize that you are willing to put effort into your relationship.
For example, on Valentine’s Day, posting photos of you all over your room will shock her much more than giving her a lipstick.
Many people have a misunderstanding when giving gifts: tell her "I have a gift for you" before giving the gift, so that she will have no surprise and only a short-term happiness.
In two days, she will forget this happiness. Only surprises can stay in her mind for a long time.
Your correct approach is not to tell her in advance, but to calmly take out your gift at the last moment.
For example:
On Women’s Day, I purchased a mail-order gift online and told her that there was a gift for a customer and I needed her help to get it.
When she brought the gift angrily, you said it was for the target (specifically, you guys think about it yourself.)
The surprise was that she didn’t know Give under the circumstances.
In a long-term relationship, there should be surprises, but not too many. After all, if something is rare, it will become more valuable. If it is too rare, it will become commonplace.
If you do the above points well, it shouldn’t be difficult for you to maintain one or even several long-term relationships.
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