Many people should have this feeling. When you first meet a partner, it seems that the other person has endless attraction, and you won’t get bored no matter how much you stick to him. But after being in a relationship for a while, it seems like you get tired of it, and you can never get the same feeling back. So why do you get tired of your partner after only two days? Is there any long-term love?
Why do you get tired of your partner after two days?
If you fall in love with a girl at first sight and then choose to pursue her, then the relationship is actually very dangerous from the beginning. In relationships, one truth will not change: Why were you attracted to a girl in the first place, and when you are with her, you will continue to have this need for her during the relationship.
For example: If a boy likes a girl to be independent, he will definitely not be able to bear the girl clinging to him every day after falling in love; and because he likes a girl to be slim and good-looking, if this girl suddenly gains dozens of kilograms, it is estimated that the boy will Will also leave her.
This is actually human nature. The same goes for girls looking for boys. There are also many boys who force girls to be with them by paying them money. In the end, they have no money, and this is the end of the relationship. it's over.
As for the pursuit caused by love at first sight, often the girl you are attracted to is not actually the real her - what you like, It's your fantasy about her, it's just the attraction she showed unilaterally when you didn't fully understand her. Think about it, you fell in love with her not long after they met each other. Do you think it’s really her that you like? In fact, no, it is all the product of impulse and emotion, which makes you feel that she is very good and beautiful.
This kind of thing is unsustainable: once you get in-depth contact with her, you find that she is not who you thought she was at all, then at this time you will be greatly disappointed, and then feel that this relationship is not you at all. Want, and then become indifferent.
Therefore, I have never recommended that two people get together very quickly, because if they get together too quickly, the other person may not like you, it is just their own fantasy of you. The faster you get together, the more it shows that the other person did not think carefully before starting this relationship.
So you will find that after the enthusiasm fades, your feelings for each other seem to take a turn for the worse. This is because what this person fell in love with from the beginning is not you, but the other person. It's just a fantasy you feel.
Men and women have different ideas for choosing a mate. Women’s ideas are “strict in the early stage and tolerant in the later period”, while men’s ideas are It is "tolerant in the early stage and strict in the later stage".
When you pursue a girl, you may be particularly strenuous. You need to do a lot of things to impress her and prove your love.Elucidate yourself. But once two people get together, girls will become more and more dependent on boys and become more and more tolerant.
But boys are not like this: they may have immediately started to pursue this girl just because she was good-looking. When you decide to be with a girl, it is not the end. It can even be said that this is the beginning of the investigation.
Boys will start to think about a serious question through their feelings when getting along with this girl, their understanding of this girl, and the compatibility between the two people: Is this girl suitable for long-term development?
If the answer is suitable, then at this time, the boy will be more willing to invest more time and energy in this relationship and start to seriously plan the future of the two people;
But if The answer is inappropriate, then you won’t have so much motivation in this relationship. Maybe after a few months of getting along, you will feel tired of it, start to get tired of this relationship, or treat it coldly.
